Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
Theme · Bringing the future closer
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Feeling from the inside 8Practising under provocation 8Moving your body 8Medication and how it works 7What worry does 7Shame 6Affection and touch 6Bringing the future closer 6Breaking the worry loop 6Making it stick 6Question the thought 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Knowing your partner 5When everything feels flat 5Treatment and medication 5What you are actually defending 5Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Shame and stigma 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Letting it out safely 4Emotions as signals 4Get started 4Growing empathy 4Safety and grounding 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Screens and attention 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Name what you feel 3Working with anger 3Listening and understanding 3Let the wave come 3Facing it a step at a time 3Calm the body 3Being seen and judged 3The cost of avoiding 3Rebuild trust 2Patience and trust 2Self-compassion 2Ride the urge 2Meaning after harm 2When anger turns to harm 2Your sense of time 2When you use something to cope 2Structure and routine 1Panic and the body 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Treatment and medication 1Validate yourself and others 1Rest and pacing 1What ADHD actually is 1Repair after rupture 1Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Remembering to do it 1Act on your values 1Shared spiritual life 1
When · Under stress

Every interruption charges you twice. There is the chance you never come back to the work at all, and there is the effort it takes to come back when you do.

This is why a day of successfully resisting everything can still end with nothing left in the tank. You count the times you got pulled away, feel…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 99:8

By the time the motivation turns up, the moment to act has usually gone. Thursday night panic about a report due on Friday is real motivation, just delivered too late to be any use.

Worth saying to yourself without contempt, because the pattern is not a preference for pressure. The job is to move the feeling earlier rather than…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 89:24

That Thursday night feeling, fully motivated at last with no good option remaining, is a trap in the timing rather than a fault in you.

It is worth naming, because most people have been told the opposite about themselves for years. The scramble is what happens when the deadline is the…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 17:11

When the panic finally shows up, take it as news about the past rather than a call to action. It means the good options went a while ago.

You can use the sentence on yourself in the moment: by the time I feel it, it is already too late. Not as a beating, just as information. Two things…

A minuteBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 89:24

Someone running just ahead of the avalanche has nowhere to stand and think. Reflection needs a bit of room, and a life with no room in it cannot make any.

This is why so much sensible advice slides straight off. Before asking what the wisest option is, something usually has to come off the pile: fewer…

LongerBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 17:11

Nobody decides well mid-panic. So cutting the number of panics is itself a way of making better decisions, even if nothing about your judgement changes at all.

It is slow work and it is usually the real work: fewer things said yes to, earlier starts, deadlines negotiated before they are sitting on top of…

LongerBringing the future closerADHD skillsQur’an 2:197

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