Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · When everything feels flat
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Feeling from the inside 8Moving your body 8Practising under provocation 8What worry does 7Medication and how it works 7Shame 6Affection and touch 6Bringing the future closer 6Breaking the worry loop 6Making it stick 6What you are actually defending 5When everything feels flat 5Knowing your partner 5Treatment and medication 5Question the thought 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Growing empathy 4Emotions as signals 4Get started 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Shame and stigma 4Letting it out safely 4Screens and attention 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Listening and understanding 3Let the wave come 3Facing it a step at a time 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3The cost of avoiding 3Being seen and judged 3Calm the body 3Working with anger 3Rebuild trust 2When anger turns to harm 2When you use something to cope 2Meaning after harm 2Patience and trust 2Ride the urge 2Self-compassion 2Your sense of time 2Your window of tolerance 1What ADHD actually is 1Validate yourself and others 1Treatment and medication 1Structure and routine 1Shared spiritual life 1Rest and pacing 1Repair after rupture 1Remembering to do it 1Act on your values 1Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1
Approach
When · Under stress

If a medicine leaves you wired, restless or with a pulse that will not settle, report it rather than tolerating it quietly.

The antidepressants that act on noradrenaline as well as serotonin can raise blood pressure and put nerves on edge, and with some of them that grows…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Try putting a sentence between you and the mood: this is what my brain is doing right now. It does not make me a bad person, and it does not mean I cannot cope. It just feels that way today.

Low mood does not arrive labelled as a mood. It arrives as facts about you, that you are useless, that nobody wants you around, and it is very hard…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 93:3

A medicine that lifts drive is not the same as one that settles anxiety, and for some people the energising kind makes the worry louder.

Bupropion is the clearest example: often good for flatness and lack of motivation, often unhelpful on its own when anxiety and a racing, sleepless…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

Put something in before you take something out. Removing the only way a person has of coping leaves them with nothing, which is not safer.

In practice this looks like smaller steps than a promise to stop: cutting the frequency, changing what is used, agreeing to wait ten minutes and do…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 65:7

Six to eight weeks is what an antidepressant needs before it can be judged. The first fortnight will mostly tell you about side effects.

The transporter is blocked within hours, so the delay belongs to slower changes further down the line. In practice that means picking a date four to…

LongerWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

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