Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesTheme · Ride the urge
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18The fear underneath anger 15Equanimity and perspective 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Moving your body 8Practising under provocation 8Feeling from the inside 8What worry does 7Medication and how it works 7Shame 6Bringing the future closer 6Affection and touch 6Making it stick 6Breaking the worry loop 6Question the thought 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Knowing your partner 5When everything feels flat 5Treatment and medication 5What you are actually defending 5Letting it out safely 4Growing empathy 4Get started 4Emotions as signals 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Shame and stigma 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Let the wave come 3The cost of avoiding 3Being seen and judged 3Calm the body 3Facing it a step at a time 3Listening and understanding 3Name what you feel 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Screens and attention 3Working with anger 3Self-compassion 2Meaning after harm 2Ride the urge 2Rebuild trust 2When you use something to cope 2Your sense of time 2When anger turns to harm 2Patience and trust 2Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Act on your values 1Care for yourself in loss 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Structure and routine 1Shared spiritual life 1Rest and pacing 1Treatment and medication 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Repair after rupture 1Remembering to do it 1Your window of tolerance 1
When an urge rises, neither fight it nor obey it. Watch it like a wave: it peaks and it falls.
The urge to snap, to check, to give in. Name it, breathe, and let it crest and pass.
Before acting on a strong impulse, wait ten slow breaths. Decide after, not during.
The peak of an urge is brief. A short, deliberate delay lets the thinking mind back in.
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