Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Screens and attention
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Systems for daily life 9Answering bids 9Moving your body 8Practising under provocation 8Feeling from the inside 8What worry does 7Medication and how it works 7Bringing the future closer 6Shame 6Breaking the worry loop 6Affection and touch 6Making it stick 6Question the thought 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Knowing your partner 5When everything feels flat 5Treatment and medication 5What you are actually defending 5Shame and stigma 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Get started 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Letting it out safely 4Growing empathy 4Emotions as signals 4Safety and grounding 3Facing it a step at a time 3Calm the body 3Being seen and judged 3The cost of avoiding 3Screens and attention 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Working with anger 3Name what you feel 3Listening and understanding 3Let the wave come 3Rebuild trust 2Patience and trust 2Meaning after harm 2Self-compassion 2Your sense of time 2Ride the urge 2When you use something to cope 2When anger turns to harm 2Remembering to do it 1Rest and pacing 1Act on your values 1Shared spiritual life 1Structure and routine 1Panic and the body 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Treatment and medication 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Your window of tolerance 1Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Repair after rupture 1
Approach
When · Under stress

Real footage of people dying circulates without any warning, sometimes buried inside a video that starts off looking harmless. Young people rarely raise this themselves, so it is worth asking.

Ask plainly what they have come across that they wish they had not seen, and how often it happens. There is no preparation before it and nothing…

Five minutesScreens and attentionCoreQur’an 24:30

Check, feel the small relief, put it down, feel the pull again a minute later. If your phone use has that shape, it is running like a compulsion, whatever else it is.

The structure matters more here than the label. An urge rises, checking brings it down, and every check teaches the urge to come back sooner. Which…

Twenty minutesScreens and attentionADHD skillsQur’an 6:68

Asked what all the scrolling had done to her most, one young woman did not say sad. She said angry, more or less all the time.

Constant irritability in a teenager usually gets worked up as depression or ADHD, and sometimes that is right. Saturation belongs on the list too,…

LongerScreens and attentionCoreQur’an 96:6

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