Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Treatment and medication
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Systems for daily life 9Answering bids 9Moving your body 8Feeling from the inside 8Practising under provocation 8Medication and how it works 7What worry does 7Breaking the worry loop 6Making it stick 6Affection and touch 6Bringing the future closer 6Shame 6Knowing your partner 5What you are actually defending 5Treatment and medication 5Question the thought 5When everything feels flat 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Get started 4Letting it out safely 4Emotions as signals 4Shame and stigma 4Growing empathy 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Screens and attention 3The cost of avoiding 3Being seen and judged 3Calm the body 3Facing it a step at a time 3Let the wave come 3Listening and understanding 3Name what you feel 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Working with anger 3Patience and trust 2Ride the urge 2Meaning after harm 2Your sense of time 2When you use something to cope 2When anger turns to harm 2Self-compassion 2Rebuild trust 2Remembering to do it 1Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Treatment and medication 1Structure and routine 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Shared spiritual life 1Your window of tolerance 1Act on your values 1Rest and pacing 1Repair after rupture 1
When · Under stress

Something that settles a surge of panic within minutes and something that changes how often the surges come are doing two different jobs. A person can need both, and it helps to say which is which.

The fast option is a rescue. It works quickly, it is meant for the worst moments, and its usefulness is measured in that hour. The slower option is…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 38:42

How well something works in the moment and whether it is right for the long run are two separate questions. Fast relief is extremely convincing, which is exactly why it is worth pausing over.

When something reliably ends the worst feeling within twenty minutes, what your body learns is to reach for it sooner next time. That is not…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:84

There is an older antihistamine used for anxiety that works by making you drowsy and carries no risk of dependence. It suits a rough stretch, and it is a bridge rather than somewhere to settle.

The costs are the ordinary antihistamine ones: dry mouth, constipation, and for older people a genuine risk of confusion and falls, with effects on…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:184

Wanting it to stop right now is not a character flaw, it is what anxiety does to a person. Saying the hurry out loud, instead of acting on it quietly, keeps it from making the decisions.

That urgency is the reason people creep a dose up, hop between supplements, and abandon anything slow before it has had a chance. Treating the hurry…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:83

When what is keeping you awake or on edge is your situation, a tablet can only do so much. That is not a failure of the medicine and it is certainly not a failure of you.

Noise, an unsafe home, night shifts, someone you are frightened of: none of these are altered by anything you swallow. The medicine may still be…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:7

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