Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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Theme · Working with anger
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Moving your body 8Feeling from the inside 8Practising under provocation 8Medication and how it works 7What worry does 7Breaking the worry loop 6Shame 6Making it stick 6Affection and touch 6Bringing the future closer 6When everything feels flat 5Question the thought 5Treatment and medication 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5What you are actually defending 5Knowing your partner 5Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Letting it out safely 4Growing empathy 4Emotions as signals 4Shame and stigma 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Get started 4Calm the body 3The cost of avoiding 3Being seen and judged 3Facing it a step at a time 3Let the wave come 3Listening and understanding 3Name what you feel 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Screens and attention 3Working with anger 3Your sense of time 2Meaning after harm 2Ride the urge 2When you use something to cope 2When anger turns to harm 2Self-compassion 2Rebuild trust 2Patience and trust 2Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Act on your values 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Shared spiritual life 1Structure and routine 1Treatment and medication 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Rest and pacing 1Repair after rupture 1Your window of tolerance 1Remembering to do it 1
Approach
Choose one short remembrance to say the moment anger rises, and use it every single time.
A prepared word of dhikr catches the anger before it speaks for you.
Catch the first body sign of anger, the jaw, the chest, the heat, and name it there.
Caught early, anger can be chosen. Caught late, it chooses for you.
When anger floods you, step away before you speak, and come back when your body is calm.
Past a certain heat the body cannot hear reason. Leave, settle, and return.
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