Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When anger turns to harm Five minutes Me Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 9 Someone I care about 9 Me 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Medication and how it works 97 Your nervous system 67 What anger actually is 50 Equanimity and perspective 42 The moment before you snap 39 Touch and bodywork 37 Getting assessed and diagnosed 35 Grounding and settling 35 Choosing your response 35 Get started 34 Systems for daily life 34 Your sense of time 32 Exercise, food and other supports 32 Food, caffeine and fuel 30 When everything feels flat 28 Practising under provocation 28 The fear underneath anger 27 What ADHD actually is 26 Feelings and focus 25 Bringing the future closer 25 Screens and attention 23 Moving your body 21 Cool the body first 20 Shame and stigma 18 Breathing 18 Treatment and medication 18 Feeling from the inside 16 What you are actually defending 16 Remembering to do it 15 What worry does 15 Breaking the worry loop 15 Emotions as signals 14 Being seen and judged 14 Growing empathy 13 Structure and routine 13 Tolerate distress 11 When you use something to cope 11 Making it stick 11 Treatment and medication 10 Facing it a step at a time 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Obsessions and compulsions 9 Rebuilding trust 9 Knowing your partner 8 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 Self-compassion 7 Shame 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 6 Listening and understanding 5 Question the thought 5 When you go numb 4 Shared spiritual life 4 When anger turns to harm 3 Rituals of connection 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Use your strengths 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Meaning after harm 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Act on your values 2 Find meaning 2 Rest and pacing 2 Work with your brain 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Repair after rupture 2 Affection and touch 1 Panic and the body 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1 Let the wave come 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Working with anger 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Help someone grieving 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Calm the body 1 Ask and say no well 1

When

Under stress 2 After a row 1

The person you love and the person who frightened you are one person, and you are not obliged to decide which of them is the real one. Both were in the room.

People tend to collapse this in one direction or the other. Either the frightening one is the truth and every kind thing was an act, or the kind one…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:110

Imagining revenge is ordinary and on its own tells you very little. What matters is whether it has started collecting details: a particular person, a method, a time, something bought or moved.

Almost everybody who is furious has run some version of a scene in their head, and treating that as alarming only teaches people not to mention it.…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 11:112

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

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