Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

When you go numb Five minutes Me Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 1 Five minutes 4

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 6 My husband or wife 6 Me 4

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 3 Involves someone else 1

Theme · When you go numb

Medication and how it works 97 Your nervous system 67 What anger actually is 50 Equanimity and perspective 42 The moment before you snap 39 Touch and bodywork 37 Getting assessed and diagnosed 35 Choosing your response 35 Grounding and settling 35 Get started 34 Systems for daily life 34 Your sense of time 32 Exercise, food and other supports 32 Food, caffeine and fuel 30 When everything feels flat 28 Practising under provocation 28 The fear underneath anger 27 What ADHD actually is 26 Bringing the future closer 25 Feelings and focus 25 Screens and attention 23 Moving your body 21 Cool the body first 20 Shame and stigma 18 Treatment and medication 18 Breathing 18 Feeling from the inside 16 What you are actually defending 16 Remembering to do it 15 What worry does 15 Breaking the worry loop 15 Emotions as signals 14 Being seen and judged 14 Growing empathy 13 Structure and routine 13 Making it stick 11 Tolerate distress 11 When you use something to cope 11 Treatment and medication 10 Facing it a step at a time 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Obsessions and compulsions 9 Rebuilding trust 9 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 Knowing your partner 8 Self-compassion 7 Posture and how you carry yourself 6 Shame 6 Question the thought 5 Listening and understanding 5 Shared spiritual life 4 When you go numb 4 When anger turns to harm 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Use your strengths 3 Rituals of connection 3 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Meaning after harm 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Act on your values 2 Find meaning 2 Work with your brain 2 Rest and pacing 2 Repair after rupture 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Affection and touch 1 Panic and the body 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Working with anger 1 Let the wave come 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Help someone grieving 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Calm the body 1 Ask and say no well 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 When apart 1

When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?

The three answers point in quite different directions. Numb everywhere, day and night, is worth taking to a doctor. Numb to good things while the bad…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:37

If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.

It matters practically as well as personally. Anything you are trying to change, in a relationship or in yourself, needs some feeling to work with,…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 6:122

Going still and needing nothing is usually something a person worked out young, somewhere it was the sensible answer.

If reaching out met dismissal, or worse, then not reaching out is not a flaw of character. A child who stops asking, stops showing what they feel and…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 57:16

Pulling back makes you harder to reach, which makes people give up on reaching, which looks like proof that nobody was coming. The loop closes itself.

Being told to open up rarely breaks it, because opening up in one go is exactly the risk the whole strategy exists to prevent. What breaks it is…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:23

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