Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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8 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Exercise, food and other supports
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Your nervous system 24Grounding and settling 24Medication and how it works 23Bringing the future closer 22Systems for daily life 22Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Fondness and admiration 15Your sense of time 15Treatment and medication 14Knowing your partner 14Practising under provocation 14Affection and touch 14Repair after rupture 13Making it stick 13Growing empathy 13Feelings and focus 12Touch and bodywork 12Structure and routine 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9Breathing 9When everything feels flat 8Being seen and judged 8Exercise, food and other supports 8Listening and understanding 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Tolerate distress 7Remembering to do it 7What ADHD actually is 7Moving your body 7What worry does 6Shared spiritual life 6Rituals of connection 6Treatment and medication 6What you are actually defending 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Rebuilding trust 5Screens and attention 5Shame and stigma 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Name what you feel 3Safety and grounding 3Emotions as signals 3Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Validate yourself and others 2Breaking the worry loop 2Shame 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Meaning after harm 2Let the wave come 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Hold a boundary 2Facing it a step at a time 2When you use something to cope 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Care for yourself in loss 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Ask and say no well 1When you go numb 1Face it gently 1Listen to the body 1Letting it out safely 1Your window of tolerance 1Rest and pacing 1Panic and the body 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Keep the bond 1

There is no brain scan, EEG trace or blood test that can tell you whether someone has ADHD. Anything sold as an objective biological test for it is promising more than the science can give.

Group differences do exist, including in the theta to beta balance, but a difference that appears when you average hundreds of people cannot identify…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:247

Balance difficulties do turn up more often in ADHD, by something like half again. That is a fact about company, not about cause, and it does not turn balance training into a treatment.

Plenty of things could sit behind a link like that. More falls and knocks, more risk taken, or genetics feeding both at once. Working on balance…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:12

Try swapping the word picky for particular. A fair number of people with ADHD have more densely packed taste buds, so the bitterness in a sprout arrives at full volume.

That changes what is going on at the table. A child is not refusing in order to be difficult, they are tasting something stronger than you are.…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

The amount in a capsule can vary from bottle to bottle, and sometimes between capsules in the same bottle. Undeclared fillers have been found in them too.

This matters most when you are trying to work out whether something helps you. A good month followed by a flat one may be two different products…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:12

Kava can damage the liver at a high enough dose, badly enough that some countries have banned it. Herbal is not a synonym for gentle.

The unnerving part is how quiet liver damage is. Someone self medicating anxiety with kava can be accumulating harm and feel nothing at all until it…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

Vitamin C cannot really be stockpiled, since the excess leaves in your urine. A, D, E and K are stored in fat, so a large daily dose keeps adding to itself.

Vitamin D is where this bites at the moment, after a lot of people started taking big amounts on their own during the pandemic years. If you are…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:31

Omega supplements thin the blood, so they usually do not belong alongside warfarin. Bruising easily is often the first thing anyone notices.

One clinician worked out that her husband's bruising came from taking omegas on top of his Coumadin, and it settled once his doctor told him to stop.…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 73:20

If fish oil gives you those horrible repeats all afternoon, that is a fixable problem rather than a reason to stop. Keep the capsules in the freezer, ask about an enteric coated version, or try a flavoured liquid.

Sticking with something usually fails for small unglamorous reasons like this. Someone with a sensitive palate will not last four weeks with an…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

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