Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
Theme · Screens and attention
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Your nervous system 24Grounding and settling 24Medication and how it works 23Answering bids 22Bringing the future closer 22Systems for daily life 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Fondness and admiration 15Your sense of time 15Practising under provocation 14Treatment and medication 14Knowing your partner 14Affection and touch 14Making it stick 13Repair after rupture 13Growing empathy 13Feelings and focus 12Touch and bodywork 12Structure and routine 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Breathing 9Gratitude 9Being seen and judged 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Exercise, food and other supports 8What ADHD actually is 7Remembering to do it 7Tolerate distress 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Moving your body 7Treatment and medication 6What worry does 6What you are actually defending 6Shared spiritual life 6Rituals of connection 6Screens and attention 5Rebuilding trust 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Emotions as signals 3Patience and trust 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Shame 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Ride the urge 2Validate yourself and others 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Meaning after harm 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Let the wave come 2Hold a boundary 2Facing it a step at a time 2When you use something to cope 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Care for yourself in loss 1Help someone grieving 1When you go numb 1Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Panic and the body 1Ask and say no well 1Listen to the body 1Your window of tolerance 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Rest and pacing 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Keep the bond 1
Approach

The studies tying childhood screen hours to later attention problems are correlational. They cannot tell you which way the arrow points, and there is a very ordinary reading where it points the other way.

The child who cannot settle is the child most likely to be put in front of a screen so that dinner gets cooked. A parent who is scattered themselves…

A minuteScreens and attentionMedical and treatmentQur’an 3:14

A ping about a parcel and a ping about your mother's health feel identical in the second before you look. Give that feeling a name, false urgency, and you get a little room.

The buzz carries no information about importance. It borrows the feeling of importance and lends it to whatever happened to arrive. Naming it in the…

A minuteScreens and attentionADHD skillsQur’an 62:11

You are comparing how it feels inside your own head with what other people chose to show. Those two were never the same kind of thing.

Keep the sentence short enough to actually use, because you need it while your thumb is still moving, not an hour afterwards. Somebody's holiday…

A minuteScreens and attentionCoreQur’an 20:131

Gaming for an hour before you start the work almost never costs an hour. Do the thing that has to be done first, then the thing you want.

Once something enjoyable is running, whatever you were meant to do afterwards looks duller than it already did, and the hour quietly becomes three.…

A minuteScreens and attentionADHD skillsQur’an 62:9

Charge the phone in another room overnight and use a proper alarm clock. Small change, and it takes the decision away from you completely.

In bed the phone is right there, and stopping is left to you at the hour you have the least left. Out of the room, there is nothing to resist. Buy…

A minuteScreens and attentionADHD skillsQur’an 13:28

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