Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · A minute

A minute 2 Five minutes 6 Twenty minutes 5

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 5 Someone I care about 4 Me 2 My husband or wife 1

Theme · Shame

Staying regulated in conflict 46 The moment before you snap 39 Choosing your response 36 Cool the body first 33 What anger actually is 25 Grounding and settling 24 Your nervous system 24 Medication and how it works 23 Systems for daily life 22 Answering bids 22 Bringing the future closer 22 The fear underneath anger 21 Get started 20 Equanimity and perspective 17 Your sense of time 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Treatment and medication 14 Knowing your partner 14 Affection and touch 14 Practising under provocation 14 Growing empathy 13 Making it stick 13 Repair after rupture 13 Feelings and focus 12 Touch and bodywork 12 Structure and routine 12 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Gratitude 9 Breathing 9 Exercise, food and other supports 8 Being seen and judged 8 Listening and understanding 8 When everything feels flat 8 Remembering to do it 7 Moving your body 7 Tolerate distress 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Shared spiritual life 6 Treatment and medication 6 What you are actually defending 6 What worry does 6 Rituals of connection 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame and stigma 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Screens and attention 5 Question the thought 4 Self-compassion 4 Feeling from the inside 4 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 Emotions as signals 3 Meaning after harm 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Shame 2 Let the wave come 2 Hold a boundary 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Working with anger 2 Breaking the worry loop 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 When you use something to cope 2 Calm the body 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 Panic and the body 1 Get it out of your head 1 Act on your values 1 Ask and say no well 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Keep the bond 1 Help someone grieving 1 Listen to the body 1 Rest and pacing 1 Your window of tolerance 1 When you go numb 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1

Shame is visible before it is spoken. Shallow breath, eyes down, shoulders curling in, a voice gone small: the body says it first.

Learn your own version so you can catch it early, and learn to spot it in others without pointing at it like a diagnosis. When you notice the…

A minuteShameTrauma informedQur’an 20:121

Change the sentence from 'I am bad' to 'I am feeling bad right now'. It is a small grammatical move and it changes what you are actually dealing with.

One is a permanent description of you, the other is weather. Weather you can wait out, describe, get curious about, tell someone about. Try saying…

A minuteShameTrauma informedQur’an 6:54

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