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A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 2 Me 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 26 Moving your body 24 Get started 17 Feelings and focus 14 Your nervous system 14 What ADHD actually is 13 Treatment and medication 12 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Your sense of time 10 Screens and attention 9 Bringing the future closer 9 What anger actually is 9 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 The moment before you snap 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Touch and bodywork 6 Tolerate distress 6 Cool the body first 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Grounding and settling 6 Emotions as signals 5 When you use something to cope 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Exercise, food and other supports 5 Breathing 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Shame 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Repair after rupture 4 Rituals of connection 4 Being seen and judged 4 Growing empathy 4 Choosing your response 4 Remembering to do it 4 Knowing your partner 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 When everything feels flat 3 Practising under provocation 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Shame and stigma 3 Use your strengths 3 What worry does 3 When anger turns to harm 2 Making it stick 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Answering bids 2 Structure and routine 2 Keep the bond 1 Treatment and medication 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Safety and grounding 1 What you are actually defending 1 Rest and pacing 1 Question the thought 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Listen to the body 1

Some of what a person does to a partner is not defence and not temper. It is a script they watched at home, absorbed as ordinary, and never once held up to the light.

The tell is that it does not feel like a decision. There was no rush of heat and no sense of crossing a line, because at some level this is simply…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:19

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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