Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

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How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for · Me

Someone I care about 15 A practitioner 15 Me 3

Where you are right now

Getting ready for something 2 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · The cost of avoiding

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 26 Moving your body 24 Get started 17 Your nervous system 14 Feelings and focus 14 What ADHD actually is 13 Treatment and medication 12 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Your sense of time 10 Bringing the future closer 9 What anger actually is 9 Screens and attention 9 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 The moment before you snap 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Grounding and settling 6 Tolerate distress 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Cool the body first 6 Touch and bodywork 6 Exercise, food and other supports 5 When you use something to cope 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Breathing 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Shame 5 Emotions as signals 5 Repair after rupture 4 Growing empathy 4 Remembering to do it 4 Being seen and judged 4 Rituals of connection 4 Choosing your response 4 Shame and stigma 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Knowing your partner 3 When everything feels flat 3 Practising under provocation 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Use your strengths 3 What worry does 3 Answering bids 2 Structure and routine 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Making it stick 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Question the thought 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Listen to the body 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Treatment and medication 1 What you are actually defending 1 Keep the bond 1 Safety and grounding 1 Rest and pacing 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 Coming and going 1 Under stress 1

The first day back is worse than the weeks before it, not better. Plan for that spike rather than letting it take you by surprise.

Anxiety climbs as the return gets close and peaks somewhere near the doorway, then it comes down, but only for someone who stays long enough to find…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 2:155

When the fear is about being seen, being asked, being judged, you can build the steps out of real moments: the doorway, the corridor, the dining hall, answering once in a lesson.

Fear of a whole building cannot be practised. Fear of walking into the dining hall at half past twelve can. Make each step small enough to be boring…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 90:11

Whoever is standing in the hall at half past seven needs to understand the trap as well as the child does. A plan agreed on a Tuesday afternoon will not survive a Wednesday morning otherwise.

In the moment it is happening, a parent is not weighing up what gets learned over a term. They are trying to end the distress in front of them, and…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 20:114

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