Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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3 practicesHow long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for · Me
Theme · Knowing your partner
Systems for daily life 38Medication and how it works 26Moving your body 24Get started 17Your nervous system 14Feelings and focus 14What ADHD actually is 13Treatment and medication 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Your sense of time 10What anger actually is 9Screens and attention 9Bringing the future closer 9Getting assessed and diagnosed 8The moment before you snap 8Shared spiritual life 7The fear underneath anger 6Cool the body first 6Tolerate distress 6Grounding and settling 6Touch and bodywork 6Shame 5Emotions as signals 5When you use something to cope 5Staying regulated in conflict 5Exercise, food and other supports 5Breathing 5Breaking the worry loop 5Facing it a step at a time 5Choosing your response 4Being seen and judged 4Rituals of connection 4Growing empathy 4Remembering to do it 4Repair after rupture 4Rebuilding trust 3Anger, alcohol and the body 3The cost of avoiding 3Equanimity and perspective 3Knowing your partner 3When everything feels flat 3Practising under provocation 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Shame and stigma 3Use your strengths 3What worry does 3When anger turns to harm 2Making it stick 2Answering bids 2Feeling from the inside 2Letting it out safely 2Posture and how you carry yourself 2Structure and routine 2Keep the bond 1Living with uncertainty 1Treatment and medication 1Care for yourself in loss 1What you are actually defending 1Safety and grounding 1Rest and pacing 1Question the thought 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Listen to the body 1
Approach
Tell your spouse about a raw spot, an old tender place that still gets touched.
When you go quiet I feel abandoned, like I did as a child. Name the ache, not the blame.
Ask one open question about their inner world tonight, and just listen to the whole answer.
What are you hoping for lately, what are you dreading. Questions with no single answer.
Ask your spouse about a moment from their childhood that shaped them, and listen closely.
What comfort felt like then, what they longed for. It still lives in how they love now.
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