Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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103 practices

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How long you have

A minute 22 Five minutes 34 Twenty minutes 38 Longer 9

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 111Someone I care about 110Me 103My husband or wife 4

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 60 Struggling right now 25 Getting ready for something 18

On your own, or with someone

On my own 62 Involves someone else 26 Both of us together 15

Theme · Systems for daily life

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Bringing the future closer 58 Your sense of time 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Practising under provocation 46 Exercise, food and other supports 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Growing empathy 34 Breathing 34 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Tolerate distress 26 Remembering to do it 26 What worry does 25 Knowing your partner 25 Treatment and medication 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 What you are actually defending 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 When you use something to cope 22 Emotions as signals 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Listening and understanding 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Rituals of connection 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Shame 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Living with uncertainty 5 Rest and pacing 5 When you go numb 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Letting it out safely 4 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 Act on your values 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Name what you feel 3 Panic and the body 3 Working with anger 3 Calm the body 3 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Ask and say no well 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Listen to the body 2 Work with your brain 2 Hold a boundary 2 Get it out of your head 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Find meaning 2 Help someone grieving 2 Keep the bond 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Care for yourself in loss 2

Approach

ADHD skills 96 Medical and treatment 7

When

Any ordinary day 80 In a change 14 Under stress 9

When someone has shut down, pressure to get moving usually pushes them further in. Safety first and activity afterwards, even when the whole household is desperate for a sign of life.

Safety here is ordinary and physical. Food that turns up without being asked for. A room nobody is inspecting. Conversation that is not a progress…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 22:78

If most of the difficulty is happening at home, most of the work needs to happen with the household in the room. Otherwise the hour of good conversation gets quietly undone by Tuesday.

In a settled stretch, seeing the young person on their own with occasional family time is fine. In a crisis, turn it round: everyone together,…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 42:38

Sorting goes better fast than carefully. If every item stalls you, ask someone to sit in the room while you work, not to help but to keep the pace up.

A person nearby changes what the hour feels like, and they can be reading their own book the whole time. What they supply is momentum, which is…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 18:95

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