Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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34 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Breathing
Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 73Grounding and settling 67Equanimity and perspective 66Moving your body 63Cool the body first 61Staying regulated in conflict 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59Feelings and focus 58The fear underneath anger 58Bringing the future closer 58Your sense of time 58Touch and bodywork 56Getting assessed and diagnosed 50What ADHD actually is 48Practising under provocation 46Exercise, food and other supports 46When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 42Screens and attention 40Breathing 34Growing empathy 34Making it stick 30Shame and stigma 30Being seen and judged 30Structure and routine 28Remembering to do it 26Tolerate distress 26What worry does 25Knowing your partner 25Treatment and medication 25Answering bids 24What you are actually defending 23Breaking the worry loop 23Feeling from the inside 23When you use something to cope 22Emotions as signals 22Repair after rupture 19Facing it a step at a time 18Rebuilding trust 17Shared spiritual life 17Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15Obsessions and compulsions 14Rituals of connection 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Shame 13Listening and understanding 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8The cost of avoiding 7When you go numb 5When anger turns to harm 5Living with uncertainty 5Rest and pacing 5Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Letting it out safely 4Panic and the body 3Let the wave come 3Name what you feel 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Find meaning 2Validate yourself and others 2Ride the urge 2Care for yourself in loss 2Hold a boundary 2Patience and trust 2Help someone grieving 2Get it out of your head 2Ask and say no well 2Listen to the body 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Keep the bond 2Work with your brain 2
When

Holding your breath for a moment makes the next one deeper, which sounds backwards until you know why. The urge to breathe is driven by carbon dioxide, not by a shortage of air.

Sensors in the brainstem watch the level of carbon dioxide in your blood, and a pause, especially after breathing out, lets it rise a little. The…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 15:29

The same breathing serves different jobs at different times. Early on it may be there to help you sleep and stay contained. Later it may be there to help you feel more, not less.

This is worth knowing so you do not judge yourself for finding a practice useful now that was useless six months ago, or the other way round. In the…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 4:103

Let the in breath come however it comes, then breathe out through pursed lips as though through a straw for a count of eight, finishing with two more counts through the nose. Three ordinary breaths, then go again.

Three rounds is the usual dose. Notice what is deliberately left uncounted: the inhale. Counting the in breath when someone is already panicking…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 16:53

The three ordinary breaths between rounds are not a gap in the practice. They are where you find out what the practice did.

Come back to normal breathing and check the body, the thoughts, the mood, the energy. Do not analyse it, just register it. Going round after round…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 39:23

To find the soft ocean sounding breath, breathe out through your mouth as if fogging up a mirror. Then keep that same slight narrowing at the throat with your mouth closed, and let the sound get quieter and quieter.

Starting with the mirror gives you something to do instead of an anatomy lesson about a part of the throat you cannot see. Once the mouth closes, the…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 7:205

The soft sound and the feel of this breath in your throat give your attention somewhere to sit. When the mind is loud, something you can hear holds better than something silent.

It is called the victorious breath, and the victory meant is over the noise in your own head rather than over anybody else. The vibration in the…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 13:28

Close your right nostril with your thumb and breathe in through the left. Swap fingers at the top, breathe out through the right, in through the right, then out through the left. That is one round.

The fiddliness is not a flaw in the design. Keeping track of which nostril and which stage takes up just enough of your mind that there is little…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 13:28

These practices are not only pleasant. They change things you could measure, which is worth knowing on the days when pleasant is not reason enough to bother.

Yoga and breath work tend to get filed under relaxation, and that undersells them. There are claims made about them shifting the chemistry involved…

Twenty minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 32:9

A good instructor says light, moderate, heavy. A poor one says set the dial to three. Only one of those takes account of the body you actually brought with you.

Fixed settings guarantee that somebody in the room is working far too hard and somebody else is barely working at all. If you tend to go flat out and…

Twenty minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 65:7

Heading towards the shape is the whole job. A perfect triangle is not what the pose is for, and nobody is marking it.

Perfectionism and going too hard tend to travel together, and between them they produce most of the injuries and most of the quitting. If you are…

Twenty minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 20:26

Go slowly enough to learn something about yourself, rather than only a technique. What is worth keeping is knowing which breath does what in your body.

One round is rarely enough to tell. Try a breath for a minute or two, stop, and check what shifted: the chest, the shoulders, how loud your thoughts…

Twenty minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 73:4

There are two skills here rather than one: letting your body move and settle in its own way, and being able to steer yourself deliberately towards rest or alertness. It is worth having both.

Most people are strong in one and shy of the other. If you always take charge, your body never gets to finish anything on its own. If you only ever…

Twenty minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 2:153

How often you actually do it matters more than which version you chose. The people who keep turning up tend to get more out of it, and those who carry on at home get more again.

This is quietly encouraging, because an unimpressive practice done regularly beats an ideal one you manage twice. It also sets the expectation…

LongerBreathingBody basedQur’an 4:103

Part of why martial arts suit some people has little to do with the kicking. Every session opens with a plan and closes with a look back at what happened and what comes next.

Those brackets at each end are doing quiet work: planning, then reviewing, then planning again, which are exactly the things that are hard to hold in…

LongerBreathingBody basedQur’an 7:205

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