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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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22 practices

When you use something to cope Me Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 11 Twenty minutes 5 Longer 4

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 24 Me 22 Someone I care about 17

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 9 Struggling right now 9 Getting ready for something 4

On your own, or with someone

On my own 18 Involves someone else 4

Theme · When you use something to cope

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Bringing the future closer 58 Your sense of time 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Practising under provocation 46 Exercise, food and other supports 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Breathing 34 Growing empathy 34 Being seen and judged 30 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Remembering to do it 26 Tolerate distress 26 Knowing your partner 25 What worry does 25 Treatment and medication 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 What you are actually defending 23 When you use something to cope 22 Emotions as signals 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Rituals of connection 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Shame 13 Listening and understanding 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Living with uncertainty 5 When anger turns to harm 5 When you go numb 5 Rest and pacing 5 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 Name what you feel 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Hold a boundary 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Listen to the body 2 Help someone grieving 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Get it out of your head 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ask and say no well 2 Keep the bond 2

Approach

DBT skills 16 Medical and treatment 6

When

Any ordinary day 17 Under stress 2 In a change 2 Coming and going 1

If the language of a recovery group puts you off, that is a reason to look for a different group, not a reason to decide that help is not for you.

Programmes vary a lot in how they talk. Some lean on surrender to a higher power, others are built around self-management and practical tools, and…

LongerWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 29:69

The useful part is not the chart on the wall. It is that the person could think of things to do instead, and that took months of quiet work to arrive at.

Someone else's list of alternatives will not hold, because they thought of theirs and you did not. Build yours slowly, adding what has genuinely…

LongerWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 29:69

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