Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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59 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Food, caffeine and fuel
Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 73Grounding and settling 67Equanimity and perspective 66Moving your body 63Cool the body first 61Staying regulated in conflict 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59Feelings and focus 58The fear underneath anger 58Bringing the future closer 58Your sense of time 58Touch and bodywork 56Getting assessed and diagnosed 50What ADHD actually is 48Practising under provocation 46Exercise, food and other supports 46When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 42Screens and attention 40Breathing 34Growing empathy 34Making it stick 30Shame and stigma 30Being seen and judged 30Structure and routine 28Remembering to do it 26Tolerate distress 26What worry does 25Knowing your partner 25Treatment and medication 25Answering bids 24What you are actually defending 23Breaking the worry loop 23Feeling from the inside 23When you use something to cope 22Emotions as signals 22Repair after rupture 19Facing it a step at a time 18Rebuilding trust 17Shared spiritual life 17Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15Obsessions and compulsions 14Rituals of connection 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Shame 13Listening and understanding 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8The cost of avoiding 7When you go numb 5When anger turns to harm 5Living with uncertainty 5Rest and pacing 5Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Letting it out safely 4Panic and the body 3Let the wave come 3Name what you feel 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Find meaning 2Validate yourself and others 2Ride the urge 2Care for yourself in loss 2Hold a boundary 2Patience and trust 2Help someone grieving 2Get it out of your head 2Ask and say no well 2Listen to the body 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Keep the bond 2Work with your brain 2
When

Food and movement are powerful, and hardly anyone keeps them up as prescribed. So the question is not what works best on paper. It is what you will still be doing in six weeks.

Roughly a third of people follow a prescription exactly as it is written, and keeping to a diet or an activity plan goes worse than that. Which means…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

Pick one small change and leave the rest alone. A full overhaul asks the most of you at the point when you have the least to give, and it usually collapses in the second week.

One change, small enough to be almost boring, kept for a month. Then another. It feels slow while you are in it, and it is the version that tends to…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:114

Working out what you have comes before choosing what to take. The right remedy for the wrong condition is still the wrong remedy, however good the remedy happens to be.

The health food shop route usually starts with a self diagnosis, and that first step is the one worth slowing down. St John's wort will do nothing…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:61

Supplements are regulated as food rather than as medicine. Nobody checks strength or purity before a product goes on sale, and the main rule is that the packet cannot claim to treat a disease.

Most people assume the opposite, that anything on a pharmacy shelf has been through some kind of approval. Regulators here generally act only once a…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:88

When researchers ran DNA testing on 13 herbal products, only 2 contained the plant on the label. Three had none of it at all, and several were padded out with rice, soy or wheat that nobody had declared.

The obvious problem is paying for something you did not get. The quieter problem is the undeclared filler, which matters a great deal if you avoid…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:173

A second study, this time of 44 products, found only about half were authentic. Roughly six in ten were mislabelled, three in ten contained a substituted ingredient, and one in five held contaminants or fillers.

One study of this kind is a story about some bad batches. Two independent studies finding the same thing is a description of how the market works.…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:99

If you are going to buy supplements, look for an independent verification mark: USP Verified, NSF, or a product tested by ConsumerLab. It is the nearest thing available to the check that regulators do not carry out.

Those schemes test identity, strength, purity and how a product was made, and manufacturers pay to take part voluntarily. There are different tiers,…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 25:67

St John's wort can cut the effectiveness of the contraceptive pill by around a third. If you take both, that is worth knowing today rather than finding out later.

It speeds up the way the liver clears certain drugs, so the pill is not the only thing affected. Warfarin, some HIV medicines, ciclosporin and a…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:47

Several herbal products change how fast the liver processes medication, which can leave a prescribed drug either weaker or stronger without a single change to the dose.

This is often why a supplement looks like it caused a relapse or a sudden run of side effects. Nothing about the prescription changed, so the pattern…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:60

Two to be careful with in particular. Yohimbe reliably ramps anxiety up, so much so that it has been used in research to bring panic on, and kava is a sedative that stacks with alcohol and with sedating medication and has damaged livers at higher doses.

Kava has been restricted or banned in several countries over liver harm, which tells you how seriously that risk is taken. Yohimbe is a poor choice…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

You cannot patent a plant, so there is little commercial reason to fund expensive trials of one. When you read that a herb has no evidence, that often means nobody paid to look rather than that somebody looked and found nothing.

Both halves of that need saying. No evidence is not proof of no effect, and it is also not permission to assume one. It leaves you with an open…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:67

Some of these do have real evidence behind them. St John's wort has repeated support in mild to moderate depression, SAMe and methylfolate have reasonable backing as additions to treatment, and omega-3 has looked weaker in the larger and better run trials.

That last part is worth sitting with, because it is what usually happens. An early promising effect shrinks as trials get bigger and better…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:32

If you want to use herbal remedies, two things carry most of the risk. Make sure whoever prescribes for you knows what you are taking, and buy from a source that has been independently tested.

That is a short list on purpose. Nearly all the harm in this area comes from an interaction nobody knew about or a product that was not what it…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:168

Herbal products are rarely covered by insurance and they add up quickly. That cost belongs in the decision, particularly when you cannot be sure the capsule holds what it says.

Money spent here is money not spent elsewhere, and often the alternative is a treatment that is covered and has been tested. Nobody is telling you…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:141

What you feel does not stay in your head. Emotional states register in the body's immune signalling too, which is one reason a long stretch of unspoken distress can leave you physically run down.

This is not a claim that you can think yourself well or ill. It is closer to saying the body keeps a tally. If you have been carrying something heavy…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:172

Water, sleep, food and digestion are not the boring preamble to the real work. When those are running badly, everything else you try has less to work with.

It can feel almost insulting to be asked about breakfast when what you carry is so much bigger than breakfast. But a body short of sleep and short of…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:79

Health advice usually assumes a kitchen, a fridge and money for the week. If you are working with less than that, the answer is not to try harder at the advice. It is to shrink the plan until it fits what you actually have.

A plan you cannot keep does more than fail. It quietly adds to the pile of evidence that nothing you do makes any difference, and that pile is heavy…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

When digestion goes wrong there are usually two things to look at rather than one: something you are eating that does not suit you, and a body too braced to digest properly. Checking only one door tends to leave you stuck.

Digestion mostly happens when your body believes it is safe. If you eat every meal with your shoulders up round your ears, that alone can show up as…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

A physical symptom is not a free floating fact. Read it next to what your life has actually held, the early parts included, and it often makes more sense than it does on its own.

This works in both directions. It stops you treating a body complaint as something random that landed on you, and it stops you treating it as a…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:22

Saying a difficulty is in the past is not the same as saying it was never real. Sometimes a picture changes because something that was making it worse got taken away, and the honest words for that are neither cured nor imagining it.

People who have been disbelieved by doctors are very sensitive to this, and with reason. The choice usually gets offered as either it was all in your…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:184

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