Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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2 practices

The cost of avoiding Me Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 25 Someone I care about 24 Me 2

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 2 Getting ready for something 2

Theme · The cost of avoiding

Medication and how it works 91 Systems for daily life 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Your nervous system 54 What anger actually is 50 Get started 47 Choosing your response 44 Equanimity and perspective 44 The moment before you snap 43 Moving your body 42 Bringing the future closer 41 The fear underneath anger 39 Your sense of time 34 Feelings and focus 32 Touch and bodywork 31 Exercise, food and other supports 28 Growing empathy 26 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 Grounding and settling 24 When everything feels flat 24 Treatment and medication 22 Practising under provocation 22 What ADHD actually is 20 Screens and attention 20 Structure and routine 19 Repair after rupture 19 What you are actually defending 19 Cool the body first 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 18 Making it stick 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Treatment and medication 15 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 What worry does 15 Emotions as signals 14 Breaking the worry loop 13 Listening and understanding 13 Rituals of connection 13 Remembering to do it 13 Feeling from the inside 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Shame and stigma 12 When you use something to cope 9 Tolerate distress 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Facing it a step at a time 6 Question the thought 5 Safety and grounding 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Calm the body 3 Act on your values 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Validate yourself and others 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Work with your brain 2 Patience and trust 2 Ask and say no well 2 Ride the urge 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Rest and pacing 2 Listen to the body 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Living with uncertainty 1 Panic and the body 1 When you go numb 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Shame 1

When

Under stress 1 Any ordinary day 1

There is a particular good feeling in getting out of something you were dreading. Give it a name at home, because it is exactly what makes tomorrow harder.

Children recognise this straight away when it is put plainly: the lovely feeling when you find out you do not have to go. Adults know it too, in the…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 3:142

When the fear is about being seen, being asked, being judged, you can build the steps out of real moments: the doorway, the corridor, the dining hall, answering once in a lesson.

Fear of a whole building cannot be practised. Fear of walking into the dining hall at half past twelve can. Make each step small enough to be boring…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 90:11

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