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Self-compassion remove filterMe remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 3Five minutes 5
Who it is written for · Me
Me 8Someone I care about 7A practitioner 7
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Coping, mostly 8Struggling right now 3Getting ready for something 1
Theme · Self-compassion
Medication and how it works 91Systems for daily life 60Staying regulated in conflict 60Your nervous system 54What anger actually is 50Get started 47Choosing your response 44Equanimity and perspective 44The moment before you snap 43Moving your body 42Bringing the future closer 41The fear underneath anger 39Your sense of time 34Feelings and focus 32Touch and bodywork 31Exercise, food and other supports 28Growing empathy 26Getting assessed and diagnosed 25Knowing your partner 25Answering bids 24Food, caffeine and fuel 24Grounding and settling 24When everything feels flat 24Treatment and medication 22Practising under provocation 22What ADHD actually is 20Screens and attention 20Structure and routine 19Repair after rupture 19What you are actually defending 19Cool the body first 19Breathing 18Being seen and judged 18Making it stick 18Rebuilding trust 17Shared spiritual life 17Treatment and medication 15Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15What worry does 15Emotions as signals 14Breaking the worry loop 13Listening and understanding 13Rituals of connection 13Remembering to do it 13Feeling from the inside 12Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Shame and stigma 12When you use something to cope 9Tolerate distress 9Gratitude 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Anger, alcohol and the body 6Facing it a step at a time 6Question the thought 5Safety and grounding 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Meaning after harm 4Let the wave come 3When anger turns to harm 3Calm the body 3Act on your values 3Name what you feel 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Validate yourself and others 2The cost of avoiding 2Work with your brain 2Patience and trust 2Ask and say no well 2Ride the urge 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Rest and pacing 2Listen to the body 2Your window of tolerance 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Get it out of your head 2Living with uncertainty 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Shame 1
When
Any ordinary day 6In a change 2

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.

Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 94:1

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

Most children with ADHD grow into adults with ADHD. Some of it settles as the brain finishes developing into your late twenties, and adult life gives you more say over how your days are arranged, but the underlying difficulty tends to stay.

This is worth knowing because much of the improvement people do get comes from arranging things to suit themselves: the job that fits, the hours that…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 65:7

It rarely stays a matter of attention. The difficulties shape what you come to believe about yourself, that colours how you are with the people closest to you, and their responses feed straight back into the original trouble.

Discouraging to read, and genuinely useful, because it means there are three places to work and they are not equally stuck. The wiring is the hardest…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:186

There is a difference between having ADHD and being ADHD. It sounds like word games until you notice which one you are living in.

Being it means the condition runs everything and explains everything, and there is a quiet relief in that which is hard to give up. Having it means…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 53:32

Work properly at the parts that can be managed, then be at peace with what is left over. The order matters more than it sounds.

Peace offered before any real effort is giving up with better vocabulary, and it never quite convinces the person saying it. Effort with no end point…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 22:78

Every list, timer and rule exists to buy you a life worth having. If the systems have quietly become the point, something has turned the wrong way round.

It is easy to end up managing your ADHD as a full time occupation and calling that recovery. A better test of a week is whether it held anything you…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 7:156

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