Practices

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How long you have

Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 15 Someone I care about 13 Me 5

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 Your sense of time 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Bringing the future closer 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Exercise, food and other supports 46 Practising under provocation 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Breathing 34 Growing empathy 34 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 30 Being seen and judged 30 Structure and routine 28 Tolerate distress 26 Remembering to do it 26 Treatment and medication 25 Knowing your partner 25 What worry does 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 What you are actually defending 23 When you use something to cope 22 Emotions as signals 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Rituals of connection 13 Listening and understanding 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Shame 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 When anger turns to harm 5 Rest and pacing 5 When you go numb 5 Living with uncertainty 5 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Patience and trust 2 Ask and say no well 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Ride the urge 2 Listen to the body 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 2 After a row 1

The person you love and the person who frightened you are one person, and you are not obliged to decide which of them is the real one. Both were in the room.

People tend to collapse this in one direction or the other. Either the frightening one is the truth and every kind thing was an act, or the kind one…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:110

Imagining revenge is ordinary and on its own tells you very little. What matters is whether it has started collecting details: a particular person, a method, a time, something bought or moved.

Almost everybody who is furious has run some version of a scene in their head, and treating that as alarming only teaches people not to mention it.…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 11:112

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

Some of what a person does to a partner is not defence and not temper. It is a script they watched at home, absorbed as ordinary, and never once held up to the light.

The tell is that it does not feel like a decision. There was no rush of heat and no sense of crossing a line, because at some level this is simply…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:19

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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