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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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What you are actually defending remove filterSomeone I care about remove filterAfter a row remove filterClear all
Who it is written for · Someone I care about
Me 2Someone I care about 2A practitioner 1My husband or wife 1
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 1On my own 1
Theme · What you are actually defending
What anger actually is 12Equanimity and perspective 11The fear underneath anger 10Cool the body first 7Screens and attention 6The moment before you snap 5Tolerate distress 4Remembering to do it 4Treatment and medication 3Practising under provocation 3Your sense of time 3Shame and stigma 3When anger turns to harm 3What ADHD actually is 3Making it stick 2What you are actually defending 2Emotions as signals 2Choosing your response 2Bringing the future closer 2The cost of avoiding 2Your nervous system 2Anger, alcohol and the body 1Breaking the worry loop 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Moving your body 1Grounding and settling 1Getting assessed and diagnosed 1Facing it a step at a time 1
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 14Under stress 3After a row 2Coming and going 1Something good 1In a change 1

Demanding respect quietly puts you below the person you are demanding it from. You are asking for something only they can hand over, which makes you the one in need.

That is an odd position for a stance meant to prove you will not be pushed around. To anyone watching it usually reads as need rather than strength.…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 28:83

Say what you would prefer and what you will do, not what they have to feel. I do not like being spoken to this way, and if it carries on I am going to step out of the conversation.

The difference is small and it changes everything. A demand needs their cooperation to succeed, so it can be refused, and being refused is where the…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 42:41

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