Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

When everything feels flat Someone I care about Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 2

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

A practitioner 6 Me 5 Someone I care about 4

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 2 On my own 2

Theme · When everything feels flat

Grounding and settling 29 Cool the body first 26 Your nervous system 21 The fear underneath anger 17 What anger actually is 14 Feelings and focus 11 Equanimity and perspective 11 The moment before you snap 10 The cost of avoiding 9 Systems for daily life 9 Moving your body 8 Breathing 8 What worry does 7 Tolerate distress 6 Screens and attention 6 Shame and stigma 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Medication and how it works 5 Choosing your response 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Shame 4 When everything feels flat 4 Letting it out safely 4 Exercise, food and other supports 3 What you are actually defending 3 Bringing the future closer 3 Self-compassion 2 Treatment and medication 2 Your sense of time 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Making it stick 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Structure and routine 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Growing empathy 2 Food, caffeine and fuel 2 What ADHD actually is 1 Remembering to do it 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Get started 1 When you use something to cope 1 Rest and pacing 1

Approach

Parts work 3 Medical and treatment 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 6 Under stress 4 In a change 3 Coming and going 1

Try putting a sentence between you and the mood: this is what my brain is doing right now. It does not make me a bad person, and it does not mean I cannot cope. It just feels that way today.

Low mood does not arrive labelled as a mood. It arrives as facts about you, that you are useless, that nobody wants you around, and it is very hard…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 93:3

When someone tells you they have been hurting themselves, keep your face steady and stay curious. Alarm closes the conversation, and you need it open.

A visible flinch teaches the person that this is not something you can hear, and the next disclosure goes elsewhere or nowhere. It can also make the…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 16:127

A medicine that lifts drive is not the same as one that settles anxiety, and for some people the energising kind makes the worry louder.

Bupropion is the clearest example: often good for flatness and lack of motivation, often unhelpful on its own when anxiety and a racing, sleepless…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

Put something in before you take something out. Removing the only way a person has of coping leaves them with nothing, which is not safer.

In practice this looks like smaller steps than a promise to stop: cutting the frequency, changing what is used, agreeing to wait ten minutes and do…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 65:7

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