Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

What you are actually defending Someone I care about Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

Me 5 A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 3 My husband or wife 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · What you are actually defending

Grounding and settling 29 Cool the body first 26 Your nervous system 21 The fear underneath anger 17 What anger actually is 14 Equanimity and perspective 11 Feelings and focus 11 The moment before you snap 10 The cost of avoiding 9 Systems for daily life 9 Moving your body 8 Breathing 8 What worry does 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Screens and attention 6 Shame and stigma 6 Tolerate distress 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Medication and how it works 5 Choosing your response 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 When everything feels flat 4 Letting it out safely 4 Shame 4 Exercise, food and other supports 3 What you are actually defending 3 Bringing the future closer 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Making it stick 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Self-compassion 2 Growing empathy 2 Food, caffeine and fuel 2 Your sense of time 2 Treatment and medication 2 Structure and routine 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Remembering to do it 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Get started 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 When you use something to cope 1 Rest and pacing 1

Approach

Core 2 Mindfulness 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 14 Under stress 3 After a row 2 In a change 1 Something good 1 Coming and going 1

Disrespect is a paper tiger. It comes at you looking like something, and it has never once actually done you any damage.

Worth noticing what your body does anyway. The heart goes, the jaw sets, and you get ready as though something physical were about to happen. The…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 25:63

When your thinking comes back online mid-argument, say so and offer a restart. I could feel myself getting defensive and this is not helping either of us, shall we try that again?

Most people escalate sometimes. The skill worth having is not never starting but knowing how to get out once you have. Naming it yourself gives the…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 12:92

Anger and doubt cannot really occupy the same moment. Anger sharpens everything to a point, and a genuine maybe blunts it.

This is why an honest question does more than an argument. Not a challenge, which hardens things, but a real one: what if I have got part of this…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 2:206

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