Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Righteous anger and perfectionism Twenty minutes Someone I care about Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 8 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

A practitioner 4 Me 3 Someone I care about 2

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 1 On my own 1

Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

Systems for daily life 37 Moving your body 26 Medication and how it works 20 Screens and attention 16 What ADHD actually is 15 The cost of avoiding 15 Treatment and medication 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Your nervous system 11 Get started 10 Your sense of time 10 Feelings and focus 8 Exercise, food and other supports 8 Bringing the future closer 7 What anger actually is 7 Grounding and settling 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Remembering to do it 5 Breathing 5 Shame and stigma 5 Cool the body first 5 The fear underneath anger 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 When you use something to cope 4 Structure and routine 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 The moment before you snap 3 What worry does 3 Tolerate distress 2 Equanimity and perspective 2 Letting it out safely 2 Making it stick 2 When everything feels flat 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Shame 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Touch and bodywork 2 Use your strengths 2 What you are actually defending 1 Rest and pacing 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Getting assessed and diagnosed 1 Growing empathy 1 Choosing your response 1 Being seen and judged 1

If you carry a firm picture of how the world is supposed to work, the world will break it several times a day. No coping skill outpaces a supply of grievance that never runs out.

This is not a case for caring less about fairness. It is about telling apart an injustice you could act on from the general refusal of life to be…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 3:104

Someone who holds themselves to an exact standard will often hear a gentle correction as an attack. With them the useful thing is timing: build some trust before you offer the other way of seeing it.

The reframe you have ready is probably right and probably too early. Consistency matters enormously to this person, so an alternative view is not…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 16:125

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