Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 4 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

A practitioner 6 Me 5 Someone I care about 2 My husband or wife 1

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 1 On my own 1

Theme · Shame

Systems for daily life 37 Moving your body 26 Medication and how it works 20 Screens and attention 16 The cost of avoiding 15 What ADHD actually is 15 Treatment and medication 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Your nervous system 11 Get started 10 Your sense of time 10 Exercise, food and other supports 8 Feelings and focus 8 What anger actually is 7 Bringing the future closer 7 Grounding and settling 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Breathing 5 Cool the body first 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Shame and stigma 5 Remembering to do it 5 The fear underneath anger 4 When you use something to cope 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 The moment before you snap 3 Structure and routine 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 What worry does 3 Shame 2 Tolerate distress 2 Touch and bodywork 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Use your strengths 2 Letting it out safely 2 Equanimity and perspective 2 When everything feels flat 2 Making it stick 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Choosing your response 1 Rest and pacing 1 What you are actually defending 1 Being seen and judged 1 Growing empathy 1 Getting assessed and diagnosed 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 Under stress 1

When a child cannot stop what is happening, the mind often settles on the one explanation that leaves some control: it must be me. Being powerless and being at fault are not the same thing, though they can feel identical.

Try separating what was genuinely within your reach at that age from what you assumed, or were told, was your job. A child cannot make a parent stop…

Twenty minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 2:286

Telling someone it was not their fault often bounces straight off, and there is a reason for that. Self blame can be the safer of the two stories, and you are asking them to give up shelter.

So do not lead with the correction. Say instead that it makes complete sense they landed there, that a child needs their parents to be good more than…

Twenty minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 15:56

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