Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Being seen and judged Someone I care about Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 3 Longer 1

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

Me 18 A practitioner 17 Someone I care about 4

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Involves someone else 1 Both of us together 1

Theme · Being seen and judged

Systems for daily life 66 Medication and how it works 58 Your nervous system 49 Moving your body 47 What anger actually is 40 Exercise, food and other supports 38 The fear underneath anger 37 Your sense of time 35 Equanimity and perspective 33 What ADHD actually is 28 Treatment and medication 27 Screens and attention 27 Bringing the future closer 27 The cost of avoiding 24 Structure and routine 21 Get started 21 What worry does 21 What you are actually defending 19 Grounding and settling 15 Breathing 14 The moment before you snap 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Feelings and focus 13 Cool the body first 13 Shame and stigma 13 Remembering to do it 12 Food, caffeine and fuel 12 When you use something to cope 11 Righteous anger and perfectionism 11 Choosing your response 11 Growing empathy 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 9 When anger turns to harm 9 Making it stick 8 Self-compassion 7 When everything feels flat 7 Emotions as signals 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Facing it a step at a time 6 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Use your strengths 5 Tolerate distress 5 Getting assessed and diagnosed 5 Being seen and judged 4 Touch and bodywork 3 Shame 2 Help someone grieving 2 Rest and pacing 1 Practising under provocation 1 Question the thought 1

The steps that actually shift this are boring. Booking your own appointment, answering a call you would rather ignore, saying something to the person at the till.

People bracing for treatment often imagine being made to give a speech or walk into a party. It is almost never that. It is the same small…

Five minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 25:63

Friends who know what this feels like are worth a great deal. Leaning on them as your therapy is a different thing, and it tends to go badly for everyone.

One young woman put the line in exactly the right place. She wanted people who understood her, and she did not want to use them as counselling. Being…

Five minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 18:28

Being articulate is not the same as being alright. Plenty of people who talk easily one to one are barely holding it together in the rooms that actually frighten them.

This is where families and clinicians get it wrong most often. Someone speaks well in a quiet office, so the fear gets marked down as mild, and the…

Five minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 40:19

You will probably not feel yourself getting better. One day you will be halfway through a chat with a stranger and realise you are doing the thing you could not do.

This is worth knowing at the start, because the middle is where people decide nothing is happening and stop. The change comes in pieces too small to…

LongerBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 50:39

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