Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
7 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · Someone I care about
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Theme · Self-compassion
The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.
People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…
One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.
Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…
Most children with ADHD grow into adults with ADHD. Some of it settles as the brain finishes developing into your late twenties, and adult life gives you more say over how your days are arranged, but the underlying difficulty tends to stay.
This is worth knowing because much of the improvement people do get comes from arranging things to suit themselves: the job that fits, the hours that…
It rarely stays a matter of attention. The difficulties shape what you come to believe about yourself, that colours how you are with the people closest to you, and their responses feed straight back into the original trouble.
Discouraging to read, and genuinely useful, because it means there are three places to work and they are not equally stuck. The wiring is the hardest…
There is a difference between having ADHD and being ADHD. It sounds like word games until you notice which one you are living in.
Being it means the condition runs everything and explains everything, and there is a quiet relief in that which is hard to give up. Having it means…
Work properly at the parts that can be managed, then be at peace with what is left over. The order matters more than it sounds.
Peace offered before any real effort is giving up with better vocabulary, and it never quite convinces the person saying it. Effort with no end point…
Every list, timer and rule exists to buy you a life worth having. If the systems have quietly become the point, something has turned the wrong way round.
It is easy to end up managing your ADHD as a full time occupation and calling that recovery. A better test of a week is whether it held anything you…
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