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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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22 practices

What anger actually is After a row Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 19 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 21 Me 20 Someone I care about 12 My husband or wife 4

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 13 Struggling right now 9

On your own, or with someone

On my own 13 Involves someone else 6 Both of us together 3

Theme · What anger actually is

Staying regulated in conflict 28 What anger actually is 22 Repair after rupture 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 The fear underneath anger 12 Feelings and focus 11 Cool the body first 9 Rebuilding trust 9 Emotions as signals 9 The moment before you snap 7 Choosing your response 7 Screens and attention 6 Practising under provocation 6 Remembering to do it 5 Treatment and medication 4 Tolerate distress 4 Your sense of time 3 Shame and stigma 3 When you go numb 3 Bringing the future closer 3 What ADHD actually is 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Your nervous system 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Growing empathy 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Shame 2 What you are actually defending 2 Making it stick 2 Affection and touch 1 Use your strengths 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Moving your body 1 Grounding and settling 1 Fondness and admiration 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1

When · After a row

Any ordinary day 58 After a row 22 Under stress 20 In a change 2 When apart 1

Anger feels righteous while it lasts. The useful moment comes later, when the regret shows up and the story has gone quiet.

Nobody changes course mid-shout, and pressing then only adds fuel. Hours or a day afterwards there is usually a stretch where a person is…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 21:87

Some anger arrives with an argument already inside it: that they disrespected you, that this is not how you are meant to be treated. It burns cooler than the sudden kind and it lasts much longer.

Because it is made of a story, it can be handled at the level of the story. What did that gesture actually mean. What would it mean if they were…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 5:8

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