Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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1 practice

Facing it a step at a time After a row Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 1 A practitioner 1 Someone I care about 1

Theme · Facing it a step at a time

Staying regulated in conflict 28 What anger actually is 22 Repair after rupture 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 The fear underneath anger 12 Feelings and focus 11 Cool the body first 9 Emotions as signals 9 Rebuilding trust 9 The moment before you snap 7 Choosing your response 7 Practising under provocation 6 Screens and attention 6 Remembering to do it 5 Treatment and medication 4 Tolerate distress 4 Shame and stigma 3 Your sense of time 3 When anger turns to harm 3 What ADHD actually is 3 When you go numb 3 Bringing the future closer 3 Your nervous system 2 Making it stick 2 Growing empathy 2 Shame 2 What you are actually defending 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Facing it a step at a time 1 Affection and touch 1 Use your strengths 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Moving your body 1 Grounding and settling 1 Fondness and admiration 1

When · After a row

Any ordinary day 16 Under stress 5 Coming and going 2 After a row 1

Being pushed into something before you are ready does more than frighten you. It teaches you that the pacing you were promised cannot be trusted, and that is the harder thing to repair.

After a step that overwhelmed them, most people go straight back to avoiding, and they also start negotiating every later step defensively, which is…

Five minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 28:31

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