Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Making it stick After a row Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 Me 2 Someone I care about 2

Theme · Making it stick

Staying regulated in conflict 28 What anger actually is 22 Repair after rupture 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 The fear underneath anger 12 Feelings and focus 11 Emotions as signals 9 Rebuilding trust 9 Cool the body first 9 The moment before you snap 7 Choosing your response 7 Screens and attention 6 Practising under provocation 6 Remembering to do it 5 Treatment and medication 4 Tolerate distress 4 Your sense of time 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Bringing the future closer 3 When you go numb 3 Shame and stigma 3 What ADHD actually is 3 Shame 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Your nervous system 2 Making it stick 2 Growing empathy 2 The cost of avoiding 2 What you are actually defending 2 Grounding and settling 1 Fondness and admiration 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Use your strengths 1 Affection and touch 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Moving your body 1

Approach

Core 1 Mindfulness 1

When · After a row

Any ordinary day 24 Under stress 6 After a row 2 In a change 1

If you held back at four o'clock and then snapped at seven, the holding back still happened. A later slip does not reach backwards and cancel it.

All or nothing scoring is the quickest route from one lapse to giving the whole thing up: I lost it, so none of it was working, so why bother. Count…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 18:24

The old angry route does not get deleted. What you are building is a rival route beside it, and at the start the new one is small.

Expect the old path to show up when you are tired, ill or caught off guard, because it is still there and it is well worn. That is not proof the work…

Five minutesMaking it stickCoreQur’an 11:115

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