Practices

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When anger turns to harm Five minutes Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 2 A practitioner 2

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 1 On my own 1

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Medication and how it works 99 Your nervous system 54 Getting assessed and diagnosed 43 Systems for daily life 36 Your sense of time 35 Exercise, food and other supports 35 What anger actually is 35 Get started 33 Food, caffeine and fuel 29 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 27 The moment before you snap 26 Screens and attention 23 Choosing your response 23 When everything feels flat 23 Practising under provocation 22 Bringing the future closer 22 Touch and bodywork 22 Treatment and medication 22 What worry does 20 Grounding and settling 19 Moving your body 17 The fear underneath anger 17 Shame and stigma 15 Being seen and judged 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Structure and routine 13 Cool the body first 13 Remembering to do it 11 What you are actually defending 10 Growing empathy 10 Breathing 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Feelings and focus 10 Treatment and medication 9 The cost of avoiding 9 Making it stick 9 Righteous anger and perfectionism 9 Obsessions and compulsions 8 When you use something to cope 8 Breaking the worry loop 8 Facing it a step at a time 7 Emotions as signals 7 Knowing your partner 6 Shared spiritual life 4 Tolerate distress 4 Self-compassion 4 Shame 3 When you go numb 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Rituals of connection 3 Use your strengths 2 Work with your brain 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Find meaning 2 Question the thought 2 Act on your values 2 Panic and the body 2 Meaning after harm 2 Listening and understanding 2 Get it out of your head 1 Rest and pacing 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Affection and touch 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Staying regulated in conflict 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Face it gently 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1

When · Any ordinary day

Under stress 6 Any ordinary day 2 After a row 1

Harm that comes out of feeling threatened and harm that is done coldly, to get something, are not one problem wearing two faces. Before deciding what would help, work out which one you are looking at.

The first kind runs hot. A person feels cornered, the body goes off, and the damage is done inside a few seconds. The second is quiet and aimed, with…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:42

Some true things cannot be said early. A reframe that would land well in the tenth conversation will end the second one.

Ideas about what really drives harm, or about a person being more than the worst thing they have done, are easily heard as excusing it or as blaming…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 17:53

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