Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

10 practices
How long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Breathing
Medication and how it works 99Your nervous system 54Getting assessed and diagnosed 43Systems for daily life 36Exercise, food and other supports 35Your sense of time 35What anger actually is 35Get started 33Food, caffeine and fuel 29What ADHD actually is 28Equanimity and perspective 27The moment before you snap 26Screens and attention 23Choosing your response 23When everything feels flat 23Treatment and medication 22Bringing the future closer 22Practising under provocation 22Touch and bodywork 22What worry does 20Grounding and settling 19Moving your body 17The fear underneath anger 17Shame and stigma 15Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Being seen and judged 14Cool the body first 13Structure and routine 13Remembering to do it 11What you are actually defending 10Feeling from the inside 10Breathing 10Feelings and focus 10Growing empathy 10Righteous anger and perfectionism 9Treatment and medication 9The cost of avoiding 9Making it stick 9When you use something to cope 8Obsessions and compulsions 8Breaking the worry loop 8Emotions as signals 7Facing it a step at a time 7Knowing your partner 6Shared spiritual life 4Self-compassion 4Tolerate distress 4When you go numb 3Shame 3Rituals of connection 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Use your strengths 2Act on your values 2Work with your brain 2Question the thought 2Panic and the body 2Meaning after harm 2Listening and understanding 2Find meaning 2When anger turns to harm 2Living with uncertainty 1Notice the pattern and flex 1Staying regulated in conflict 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Get it out of your head 1Your worth is not conditional 1Rest and pacing 1Rebuilding trust 1Affection and touch 1Your window of tolerance 1Face it gently 1
When · Any ordinary day

Put a hand just below your ribs and let it move. Most of us breathe up in the chest, and the settling effect comes from lower down, where the diaphragm can actually shift.

You can check this lying down with a book on your stomach. If the book rises, the breath is going where you want it. If only your shoulders move, it…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 15:29

A child cannot watch their own breathing, so give them something to watch instead. Bubbles through a wand show the out breath as it happens: too hard and it bursts, too weak and nothing comes.

Smelling a flower and then blowing it out gives each half of the breath a picture. The bubble wand is better still, because it answers back straight…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 81:18

Hot yoga asks you to keep drinking all the way through the class. If forgetting to eat and drink is one of your regular problems, choose a different room.

This is not about the style being bad. It is about matching what you choose to the things you genuinely find hard. Dehydration creeps up quietly and…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 94:5

There is no breath that calms everyone. The one that settles your friend may leave you worse, and that is information about your body rather than a failure in you.

Labels like calming or energising are a rough guide at best. What actually happens depends on how you usually breathe, what your body has been…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 50:16

Start with a count of four in and four out, then drop the count. Once the rhythm is there your body will choose its own length: six and six, eight and eight, whatever settles you.

The count is scaffolding. Holding onto it too long turns the practice into something you can pass or fail, which is the opposite of the point.…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 81:18

Rather than pulling in a big breath, breathe gently and slightly less than you want to, then wait. The deep breath that arrives by itself does more than the one you force.

Keep the breathing light and unhurried, and after a while a mild hunger for air builds. Let it build a little. At some point the body takes a fuller…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 94:5

Holding your breath for a moment makes the next one deeper, which sounds backwards until you know why. The urge to breathe is driven by carbon dioxide, not by a shortage of air.

Sensors in the brainstem watch the level of carbon dioxide in your blood, and a pause, especially after breathing out, lets it rise a little. The…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 15:29

The three ordinary breaths between rounds are not a gap in the practice. They are where you find out what the practice did.

Come back to normal breathing and check the body, the thoughts, the mood, the energy. Do not analyse it, just register it. Going round after round…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 39:23

To find the soft ocean sounding breath, breathe out through your mouth as if fogging up a mirror. Then keep that same slight narrowing at the throat with your mouth closed, and let the sound get quieter and quieter.

Starting with the mirror gives you something to do instead of an anatomy lesson about a part of the throat you cannot see. Once the mouth closes, the…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 7:205

Close your right nostril with your thumb and breathe in through the left. Swap fingers at the top, breathe out through the right, in through the right, then out through the left. That is one round.

The fiddliness is not a flaw in the design. Keeping track of which nostril and which stage takes up just enough of your mind that there is little…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 13:28

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