Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When you go numb Five minutes Any ordinary day Clear all

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 3 Me 3 A practitioner 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · When you go numb

Medication and how it works 99 Your nervous system 54 Getting assessed and diagnosed 43 Systems for daily life 36 Your sense of time 35 Exercise, food and other supports 35 What anger actually is 35 Get started 33 Food, caffeine and fuel 29 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 27 The moment before you snap 26 Screens and attention 23 Choosing your response 23 When everything feels flat 23 Practising under provocation 22 Bringing the future closer 22 Touch and bodywork 22 Treatment and medication 22 What worry does 20 Grounding and settling 19 Moving your body 17 The fear underneath anger 17 Shame and stigma 15 Being seen and judged 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Structure and routine 13 Cool the body first 13 Remembering to do it 11 What you are actually defending 10 Growing empathy 10 Breathing 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Feelings and focus 10 Treatment and medication 9 The cost of avoiding 9 Making it stick 9 Righteous anger and perfectionism 9 Obsessions and compulsions 8 When you use something to cope 8 Breaking the worry loop 8 Facing it a step at a time 7 Emotions as signals 7 Knowing your partner 6 Shared spiritual life 4 Tolerate distress 4 Self-compassion 4 Shame 3 When you go numb 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Rituals of connection 3 Use your strengths 2 Work with your brain 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Find meaning 2 Question the thought 2 Act on your values 2 Panic and the body 2 Meaning after harm 2 Listening and understanding 2 Get it out of your head 1 Rest and pacing 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Affection and touch 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Staying regulated in conflict 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Face it gently 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 After a row 2 When apart 1

When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?

The three answers point in quite different directions. Numb everywhere, day and night, is worth taking to a doctor. Numb to good things while the bad…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:37

If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.

It matters practically as well as personally. Anything you are trying to change, in a relationship or in yourself, needs some feeling to work with,…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 6:122

Going still and needing nothing is usually something a person worked out young, somewhere it was the sensible answer.

If reaching out met dismissal, or worse, then not reaching out is not a flaw of character. A child who stops asking, stops showing what they feel and…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 57:16

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