Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

446 practices

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Area

Focus, starting, and ADHD 167Anger 86 Your marriage 78 Your body 60 Worry and anxiety 32 Low mood and hard feelings 17 Yourself and your limits 4 After harm 1 Grief and loss 1

How long you have · A minute

A minute 446Five minutes 973Twenty minutes 342Longer 133

Who it is written for

Me 406A practitioner 343Someone I care about 211My husband or wife 92

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 332Struggling right now 59 Getting ready for something 55

On your own, or with someone

On my own 333Involves someone else 88 Both of us together 25

Theme

Medication and how it works 22 Get started 20 Systems for daily life 20 Bringing the future closer 17 The moment before you snap 16 Structure and routine 16 Your nervous system 15 Choosing your response 14 Fondness and admiration 14 Your sense of time 14 Growing empathy 13 Treatment and medication 13 Knowing your partner 11 Answering bids 11 Staying regulated in conflict 10 What anger actually is 9 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Gratitude 9 Making it stick 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Listening and understanding 8 Cool the body first 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Grounding and settling 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Screens and attention 7 Moving your body 7 Breathing 7 Remembering to do it 6 When everything feels flat 6 Affection and touch 6 Feelings and focus 6 Shared spiritual life 5 The fear underneath anger 5 Equanimity and perspective 5 Treatment and medication 5 The cost of avoiding 5 Being seen and judged 5 Practising under provocation 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Shame and stigma 4 What worry does 3 Self-compassion 3 Feeling from the inside 3 Emotions as signals 3 When you use something to cope 3 Your worth is not conditional 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 Rebuilding trust 2 What you are actually defending 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Question the thought 2 Tolerate distress 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Keep the bond 1 Get it out of your head 1 Rituals of connection 1 Face it gently 1 Repair after rupture 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Panic and the body 1 Shame 1 Breaking the worry loop 1

Approach

ADHD skills 125Medical and treatment 71 Core 64 Body based 62 Gottman 42 CBT 28 Mindfulness 25 Emotionally focused 18 DBT skills 7 Trauma informed 2 Narrative 1 Grief 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 446Under stress 257After a row 69 Coming and going 24 In a change 11 Something good 3 When apart 1

Stand on one foot for half a minute, a hand on a chair if you need it, and put all your attention into the foot on the floor.

You will find it is never still. There is a constant small negotiation towards the toes, the heel, one side and back again, and every so often you…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 3:191

There are small signs that somebody has come back into connection: light in the eyes, a bit of music in the voice, a smile that arrives by itself.

They are easy to see once you know to look, and they are just as useful in reverse. If you are with someone difficult and your own voice has gone…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 23:78

Before you close your eyes for anything calming, spend a minute looking round the room. Let your eyes land wherever they want to.

Closing your eyes too early is one reason relaxation exercises backfire. If your body has not registered that the room is fine, going inward means…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 67:23

Breath does not always calm. For some people it opens the door to feeling, for others it puts a little distance in. Find out which it does for you today.

The instruction to breathe deeply gets handed out as though it settles everyone. Plenty of people find that attention to their breath brings the…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 7:205

Your heart speeds up slightly on every breath in and slows on every breath out. Sit quietly with a hand on your chest and you can feel it.

This is why lengthening the out breath calms you and lengthening the in breath wakes you up. It also means you carry a working control that needs no…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 25:47

Whatever happens in a session, the change gets built in the other hours. Choose things you can do at a bus stop with nothing in your hands.

There are roughly 167 waking hours a week outside an appointment, and that is where a practice either becomes yours or quietly disappears. Elaborate…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 3:191

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