Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Emotions as signals A minute Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 3 Five minutes 7 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 My husband or wife 3 Someone I care about 2 Me 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 1 Both of us together 1 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Emotions as signals

Medication and how it works 22 Systems for daily life 20 Get started 20 Bringing the future closer 17 The moment before you snap 16 Structure and routine 16 Your nervous system 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Choosing your response 14 Your sense of time 14 Growing empathy 13 Treatment and medication 13 Answering bids 11 Knowing your partner 11 Staying regulated in conflict 10 What anger actually is 9 Gratitude 9 Making it stick 9 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 Cool the body first 8 Listening and understanding 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Screens and attention 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Moving your body 7 Breathing 7 Grounding and settling 7 Feelings and focus 6 Affection and touch 6 When everything feels flat 6 Remembering to do it 6 Treatment and medication 5 The cost of avoiding 5 The fear underneath anger 5 Shared spiritual life 5 Equanimity and perspective 5 Being seen and judged 5 Practising under provocation 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Shame and stigma 4 Feeling from the inside 3 Emotions as signals 3 When you use something to cope 3 Self-compassion 3 What worry does 3 What you are actually defending 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Question the thought 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Tolerate distress 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Shame 1 Rituals of connection 1 Repair after rupture 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Panic and the body 1 Keep the bond 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2

You do not need a long list of feeling words. Half a dozen you can actually reach for under pressure will do more than forty you have to look up.

Angry, sad, afraid, ashamed, surprised, glad is enough to start with, and most hard moments are some mixture of the first four. The aim is not to…

A minuteEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 91:8

If someone is saying so much that you have lost the thread, stop them kindly and check. Sorry, that is a lot and it matters, can I say back what I have got so far.

It feels rude and it is usually received as the opposite, because it says the words were worth keeping. Listening while quietly drowning helps…

A minuteEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 8:24

When someone goes quiet and you can see they have gone inside, that is not your moment to help. Stay still and let the silence run.

You will feel the pull to summarise, to check they are alright, to bring the other person back in. All of it lands as an interruption. Give it a few…

A minuteEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:16

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