Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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2 practices

Choosing your response Twenty minutes Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 14 Five minutes 23 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 6

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 Me 2 My husband or wife 1 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 1 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 1 Both of us together 1

Theme · Choosing your response

Systems for daily life 28 Moving your body 21 Medication and how it works 20 Get started 16 What ADHD actually is 12 Screens and attention 12 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Your nervous system 11 Treatment and medication 11 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Your sense of time 9 What anger actually is 8 Food, caffeine and fuel 8 Feelings and focus 8 The cost of avoiding 8 Exercise, food and other supports 8 Touch and bodywork 7 Bringing the future closer 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Grounding and settling 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 When everything feels flat 5 The fear underneath anger 5 Breathing 5 When you use something to cope 5 Tolerate distress 5 The moment before you snap 5 Shame and stigma 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Structure and routine 3 Being seen and judged 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Knowing your partner 3 Practising under provocation 3 Remembering to do it 3 Rituals of connection 3 Use your strengths 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 What worry does 2 Shame 2 Repair after rupture 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Making it stick 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Equanimity and perspective 2 Cool the body first 2 Choosing your response 2 What you are actually defending 1 Treatment and medication 1 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Rest and pacing 1 Answering bids 1 Keep the bond 1 Question the thought 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Core 1 Gottman 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 2

Some triggers make no sense because the memory attached to them is long gone while the alarm is still wired in. A tone of voice, a particular shirt, the smell of dinner burning.

If you find yourself furious out of all proportion, look at the features rather than the story. What did that moment sound like, look like, feel like…

Twenty minutesChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 41:36

Set the terms of a break while nobody is angry: what you will say, how long you will take, where you will go, and that you will not drive. Then it is a shared arrangement rather than something you do to the other person.

Leaving can be used as a weapon. Two days of silence, walking out while someone is crying, driving off into the night: all of that can wear the…

Twenty minutesChoosing your responseGottmanQur’an 3:159

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