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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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24 practices

Making it stick Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 9 Five minutes 9 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 24 Me 21 Someone I care about 13

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 15 Getting ready for something 8 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 20 Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 1

Theme · Making it stick

Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90 Your nervous system 87 Get started 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 64 What anger actually is 58 Your sense of time 58 Moving your body 56 Exercise, food and other supports 55 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 The moment before you snap 49 What ADHD actually is 48 Treatment and medication 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Choosing your response 45 Screens and attention 44 Touch and bodywork 38 Equanimity and perspective 37 When everything feels flat 34 Grounding and settling 34 Structure and routine 33 Feelings and focus 32 Reading, numbers and learning differences 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 29 What worry does 26 Cool the body first 25 Shame and stigma 25 Being seen and judged 24 Breathing 24 Making it stick 24 The cost of avoiding 24 Treatment and medication 23 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 When you use something to cope 19 Shared spiritual life 16 Facing it a step at a time 16 Feeling from the inside 16 Breaking the worry loop 16 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 14 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Emotions as signals 13 Answering bids 12 Tolerate distress 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Shame 7 Rituals of connection 7 Affection and touch 7 Question the thought 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Living with uncertainty 3 When you go numb 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Rest and pacing 3 Repair after rupture 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Panic and the body 3 Act on your values 2 Work with your brain 2 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Safety and grounding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

Mindfulness 12 Core 12

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 24 Under stress 6 After a row 2 In a change 1

It does get better, but not by waiting for time to pass. The improvement comes from the walking, and the walking is small and unremarkable.

Every rep you did today changes almost nothing you can feel, which is the honest and irritating truth of it. Progress here shows up over months and…

LongerMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 92:7

Skills bring the flare ups down in number and in heat. What they leave standing is the layer underneath: what you believe you are owed, and how you think people ought to behave.

That layer is slower work, closer to rebuilding a view of life than to learning a technique. What counts as fair, what can reasonably be expected of…

LongerMaking it stickCoreQur’an 13:11

Anger gets fed from several places: blame, not being able to bear not knowing, losing sight of the other person, and needs you never said out loud. Each one wants a different kind of work.

So it is worth asking which of them is mostly yours. If it is blame, forgiveness is the road. If it is not knowing, the work is learning to sit with…

LongerMaking it stickCoreQur’an 41:35

The work you are doing on anger does not stay in the anger box. Learning to hold an unanswered question, or to sit with what you cannot change, turns up in worry and in low patches too.

That is quietly encouraging on the days the anger part feels slow. It also means being careful about crediting every improvement to the anger work,…

LongerMaking it stickCoreQur’an 92:7

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