Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

45 practices

Choosing your response Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 14 Five minutes 23 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 6

Who it is written for

Me 45 A practitioner 39 Someone I care about 8 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 24 Getting ready for something 18 Struggling right now 3

On your own, or with someone

On my own 41 Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 1

Theme · Choosing your response

Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90 Your nervous system 87 Get started 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 64 What anger actually is 58 Your sense of time 58 Moving your body 56 Exercise, food and other supports 55 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 The moment before you snap 49 Treatment and medication 48 What ADHD actually is 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Choosing your response 45 Screens and attention 44 Touch and bodywork 38 Equanimity and perspective 37 When everything feels flat 34 Grounding and settling 34 Structure and routine 33 Feelings and focus 32 Reading, numbers and learning differences 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 29 What worry does 26 Cool the body first 25 Shame and stigma 25 Being seen and judged 24 The cost of avoiding 24 Breathing 24 Making it stick 24 Treatment and medication 23 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 When you use something to cope 19 Breaking the worry loop 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Feeling from the inside 16 Facing it a step at a time 16 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 14 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Emotions as signals 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Answering bids 12 Tolerate distress 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Shame 7 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Your worth is not conditional 3 Repair after rupture 3 Panic and the body 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Rest and pacing 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Find meaning 2 Meaning after harm 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Keep the bond 2 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

Core 30 Mindfulness 12 CBT 2 Gottman 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 45 Under stress 28 After a row 7 Coming and going 1

What changes things is what you actually rehearse. Advice you agreed with does very little on its own.

So take one thing and repeat it rather than collecting ten good ideas. One breathing practice, one line to say, one route out of the room. Repeated…

LongerChoosing your responseMindfulnessQur’an 13:22

No medicine installs a skill. Staying steady when you are provoked is closer to a language you practise than to something anyone can prescribe you.

Medication can settle sleep, mood or attention, and that can be what makes practice possible in the first place. The response you actually want,…

LongerChoosing your responseMindfulnessQur’an 41:35

Hours in a room do not do the work on their own. If you are counting sessions towards a total, the count will run out and leave you roughly where you started.

This bites hardest when the attendance was ordered rather than chosen. A better question at the end of each week is what you practised and what…

LongerChoosing your responseMindfulnessQur’an 28:54

Running on autopilot is not the problem in itself. Patience, letting things go and wishing people well can all become automatic, and then they are there without you having to summon them.

Nobody deliberates under real pressure, so the aim is not to think harder at the time, it is to have a better default waiting. Defaults get installed…

LongerChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 3:134

Changing how you react is two jobs, not one: loosening the old response and building the new one. Most people only do the second and then wonder why the old one keeps winning.

The new response is usually fine in calm conditions and then vanishes the moment your pulse is up, because the old one is still there, faster and far…

LongerChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 29:45

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