Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed
Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90Your nervous system 87Get started 69Getting assessed and diagnosed 64Your sense of time 58What anger actually is 58Moving your body 56Exercise, food and other supports 55Food, caffeine and fuel 53The moment before you snap 49What ADHD actually is 48Treatment and medication 48Bringing the future closer 46Choosing your response 45Screens and attention 44Touch and bodywork 38Equanimity and perspective 37When everything feels flat 34Grounding and settling 34Structure and routine 33Feelings and focus 32The fear underneath anger 31Reading, numbers and learning differences 31Practising under provocation 30Growing empathy 29What worry does 26Shame and stigma 25Cool the body first 25Being seen and judged 24The cost of avoiding 24Making it stick 24Breathing 24Treatment and medication 23Remembering to do it 20Knowing your partner 20When you use something to cope 19Breaking the worry loop 16Shared spiritual life 16Facing it a step at a time 16Feeling from the inside 16What you are actually defending 14Fondness and admiration 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Emotions as signals 13Obsessions and compulsions 13Tolerate distress 12Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Listening and understanding 10Posture and how you carry yourself 9Gratitude 9Self-compassion 8Use your strengths 8Affection and touch 7Rituals of connection 7Shame 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 6When anger turns to harm 6Rebuilding trust 5Your worth is not conditional 3When you go numb 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Repair after rupture 3Rest and pacing 3Panic and the body 3Living with uncertainty 3Find meaning 2Work with your brain 2Face it gently 2Keep the bond 2Meaning after harm 2Get it out of your head 2Act on your values 2Your window of tolerance 1Listen to the body 1Safety and grounding 1Care for yourself in loss 1
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When · Any ordinary day

Run the assessment yourself and watch while they work. Under real effort you will see the small movements, the tics and the overflow that never appear in ordinary conversation, and none of it reaches you if a technician or an app does the testing.

Sit where you can see hands and face. Note what happens as the task gets harder: the tongue that comes out, the leg that starts going, the free hand…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 3:159

A clinician trained thoroughly in autism and ADHD may know almost nothing about coordination or reading difficulties, and can spend years working above foundations nobody ever checked. Ask yourself which of those categories your own training left out.

Go back over a handful of old cases rather than only reading about it. Where a child made less progress than you expected, ask what you never…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 20:114

Processing speed is the stubborn one. It shifts a little with repeated, rhythmically paced practice and hardly at all with explanation, so say that to a family at the start rather than when they are disappointed.

Teaching a strategy will not make a slow processor quick, and telling a child to hurry up only makes the work more unpleasant. Graded practice with…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 18:69

Assess, make a plan, do the work, and then keep measuring while you do it. Without that last part you have no way of knowing whether to push harder, change direction or stop.

Use more than one stream: your own measures, what parents notice at home, what school reports, and what the child says about it. Children will tell…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 42:38

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