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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices

Cool the body first Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 6 Me 6 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Getting ready for something 16 Coping, mostly 6 Struggling right now 3

On your own, or with someone

On my own 5 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Cool the body first

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Your nervous system 47 Get started 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 Your sense of time 37 What anger actually is 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 26 Screens and attention 26 Structure and routine 25 The moment before you snap 25 When everything feels flat 25 Growing empathy 25 Choosing your response 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 Feelings and focus 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Treatment and medication 20 Knowing your partner 20 The fear underneath anger 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Shared spiritual life 16 Being seen and judged 16 Practising under provocation 15 Making it stick 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Remembering to do it 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 What you are actually defending 13 Shame and stigma 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 When you use something to cope 10 Emotions as signals 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Gratitude 9 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Use your strengths 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Self-compassion 6 Cool the body first 6 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Tolerate distress 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Panic and the body 3 Question the thought 3 Repair after rupture 3 Work with your brain 2 Meaning after harm 2 Act on your values 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Rest and pacing 2 Living with uncertainty 1 Shame 1 Listen to the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 When you go numb 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Safety and grounding 1

Approach

Body based 4 Mindfulness 1 Core 1

When · Any ordinary day

Under stress 12 Any ordinary day 6 After a row 2

You already own this one. Let out a sigh of relief right now, on purpose, and notice that your body knew exactly what to do.

Most people wait for the sigh to arrive by itself at the end of a hard hour. It does not have to be the last thing that happens. Doing one…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 40:61

Anger pulls your attention towards whatever provoked it, the way a vacuum cleaner pulls at a curtain. Naming it that way makes it something happening to you rather than something wrong with you.

Rumination is an accurate word and a heavy one, and people who already feel judged tend to close up when it appears. A picture does the same job…

A minuteCool the body firstMindfulnessQur’an 89:27

Anger arrives with a rush of energy that feels strong and clear, and that is a large part of why it keeps coming back. The bill turns up hours later, long after the payment.

Worth saying plainly, because people assume they lose their temper against their own interests. In the moment it works: bigger, faster, less…

Five minutesCool the body firstCoreQur’an 13:28

Most of what sets you off is meaning rather than sensation: somebody's tone, a look you have seen before, what you take it to say about you.

That is useful, because it tells you where to aim. Sensory tricks can steady the body while the storm passes, and they will not touch the…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 10:67

Look along a shelf of anger books and the advice converges: bring the body down first. Mostly what differs is the packaging, so take whichever version you will actually use.

Slow breathing, a walk, cold water, wudu, muscle release, one long breath before you answer. Arguing about which is best is usually a way of doing…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 28:73

Rather than noting each impulse in your head, touch a finger for each one. Thumb to index, thumb to middle, and on round the hand.

Watching impulses go past is harder to sustain than it sounds once you are stirred up, and a purely mental tally tends to slip away without you…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 20:130

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