Practices

It helps to have one small set of moves you use whatever the worry is wearing today. Not a fresh technique for each fear, just the same few steps, learned well enough to reach for without thinking.

Anxiety changes costume. This month it is contamination, next month it is being late, next year it is your health. If every version needs its own…

If you are helping someone with their sleep and eating, ask rather than instruct. The moment you sound like their mother you have lost the part of you that was useful.

Young adults are busy becoming separate people, and any adult who picks up the parental voice gets folded into that argument whatever they were…

Say out loud, before you start, that there will be bad weeks. Then when one turns up it is a thing you expected rather than proof the whole plan was nonsense.

Setbacks get read catastrophically when nobody warned you: back to the beginning, all that for nothing. Agree in advance what happens instead. You…

Panic rarely comes out of nowhere. It usually lands on a body already short of sleep, running on coffee and eating at odd hours, so whatever tipped it over did not have far to push.

This is not a telling off about your habits. It is that the same argument or deadline arrives very differently at a rested body than at a wrecked…

Stay with a step until it stops being interesting. Not until you have survived it once, but until it is ordinary, and then move up.

Moving on too early turns the ladder into a run of narrow escapes, and each escape teaches that you got out just in time. The marker worth waiting…