Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices

Obsessions and compulsions Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 5 Someone I care about 4 Me 2

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 8 Coping, mostly 5

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Involves someone else 2 Both of us together 1

Theme · Obsessions and compulsions

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Get started 47 Your nervous system 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 What anger actually is 37 Your sense of time 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Screens and attention 26 Equanimity and perspective 26 Growing empathy 25 The moment before you snap 25 Structure and routine 25 When everything feels flat 25 Choosing your response 24 Feelings and focus 23 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Treatment and medication 20 The fear underneath anger 20 Knowing your partner 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Practising under provocation 15 Making it stick 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Shame and stigma 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Remembering to do it 13 What you are actually defending 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Emotions as signals 10 Listening and understanding 10 When you use something to cope 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Gratitude 9 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Use your strengths 7 Self-compassion 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Cool the body first 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Tolerate distress 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Question the thought 3 Panic and the body 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Repair after rupture 3 Get it out of your head 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Rest and pacing 2 Keep the bond 2 Meaning after harm 2 When you go numb 1 Shame 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 5 Under stress 1

When the words for feelings are not there, ask for a number instead. How much did the handwashing take over this week, one to ten, is a question someone can answer on a bad day.

A number asks far less of a person than a description, which matters when putting feelings into language is hard for them, and you still end up with…

A minuteObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 2:286

Agree a short phrase to use at home. Saying I am having OCD worries tells a parent what is going on without handing them the worry to solve.

Once a parent hears the details they will nearly always try to help by answering, and answering is the thing that feeds it. A label gives them…

A minuteObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 23:97

It can help to give the parts of your brain jobs. The front of your head is the manager, the memory system is the librarian, and the alarm is a security guard who is good at his work and far too keen on it.

The point is not accuracy, it is having language you can reach for quickly. Saying the guard is overreacting again gets you further than trying to…

Five minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 70:19

Offer choices rather than instructions. With a problem that runs on control, being told what to do gives that control somewhere to dig in.

Two or three real options, the trade-offs said plainly, and then the pick is genuinely theirs. That holds for the big decisions too, like moving to a…

Five minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 22:78

When obsessions start early and dig in deep, ask gently what anxiety looks like elsewhere in the family. Often there is an undiagnosed parent, and often that parent is helping in ways that keep the whole thing running.

None of this is about blame. A parent who checks the locks for their child, answers the same question fifteen times, or arranges the evening around a…

Twenty minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 114:6

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