Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Repair after rupture Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

Me 3 My husband or wife 3

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Repair after rupture

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Your nervous system 47 Get started 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 Your sense of time 37 What anger actually is 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 26 Screens and attention 26 Structure and routine 25 Growing empathy 25 When everything feels flat 25 The moment before you snap 25 Choosing your response 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 Feelings and focus 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Knowing your partner 20 The fear underneath anger 20 Treatment and medication 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Making it stick 15 Practising under provocation 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 What you are actually defending 13 Shame and stigma 13 Remembering to do it 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 When you use something to cope 10 Emotions as signals 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 7 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Self-compassion 6 Cool the body first 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Tolerate distress 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Repair after rupture 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Question the thought 3 Panic and the body 3 Rest and pacing 2 Work with your brain 2 Meaning after harm 2 Act on your values 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Shame 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Safety and grounding 1 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When · Any ordinary day

After a row 15 Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 1

Rebuild trust today with one small, consistent, kept action rather than a grand promise.

Trust returns in tiny reliable acts, not speeches. Do the small thing you said, again.

A minuteRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 23:8

Name one old hurt with your spouse that still aches, gently and without re-litigating.

When you were not there that day, it marked me. Naming it is not attacking, it is asking to heal.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 42:40

Where the harm has truly stopped, begin to set down a grievance you have carried.

Not forgetting, releasing. Once the wound is no longer being made, let it start to close.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 24:22

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