Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Rituals of connection Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 7 Me 7

Theme · Rituals of connection

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Your nervous system 47 Get started 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 Your sense of time 37 What anger actually is 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 26 Screens and attention 26 The moment before you snap 25 Growing empathy 25 When everything feels flat 25 Structure and routine 25 Choosing your response 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 Feelings and focus 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Treatment and medication 20 The fear underneath anger 20 Knowing your partner 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Practising under provocation 15 Making it stick 15 Breaking the worry loop 14 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 13 Shame and stigma 13 Remembering to do it 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Feeling from the inside 10 When you use something to cope 10 Emotions as signals 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 7 Rituals of connection 7 Affection and touch 7 Self-compassion 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Cool the body first 6 Facing it a step at a time 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Tolerate distress 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Repair after rupture 3 Panic and the body 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Question the thought 3 Find meaning 2 Meaning after harm 2 Rest and pacing 2 Keep the bond 2 Face it gently 2 Work with your brain 2 Act on your values 2 Get it out of your head 2 When you go numb 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Shame 1 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Core 3 Gottman 2 Emotionally focused 2

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 7 Coming and going 5 Something good 1

Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.

Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 17:34

Keep one daily moment to reconnect, a few minutes that are only about the two of you.

Morning coffee, the walk, the goodnight. A small daily island of us.

Five minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:62

Choose one small daily ritual and protect it this week. Same time, phones away.

The morning tea, the evening walk, the goodnight. Small, repeated, only yours.

Five minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Go to bed at the same time tonight.

Small shared rhythms, sleeping and waking and eating together, are the scaffolding of closeness.

Five minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Once this week, sit together unhurried and share one feeling and one reassurance.

Not logistics. How are we really, and what do you need from me. A regular heart to heart.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21

Share one meal today with nothing else happening, no screen, no rush.

Undivided attention over something ordinary is a small daily ritual of belonging.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

Keep a weekly date, just the two of you, to keep learning each other with open questions.

A regular two hours together, asking about dreams and hopes, keeps your map of each other current.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:74

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