Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

6 practices

Self-compassion Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 4

Who it is written for

Me 6 Someone I care about 5 A practitioner 5

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 6 Getting ready for something 1 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Self-compassion

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Get started 47 Your nervous system 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 What anger actually is 37 Your sense of time 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 26 Screens and attention 26 When everything feels flat 25 Structure and routine 25 Growing empathy 25 The moment before you snap 25 Choosing your response 24 Feelings and focus 23 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Knowing your partner 20 Treatment and medication 20 The fear underneath anger 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Shared spiritual life 16 Being seen and judged 16 Practising under provocation 15 Making it stick 15 Breaking the worry loop 14 Fondness and admiration 14 Remembering to do it 13 Shame and stigma 13 What you are actually defending 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Feeling from the inside 10 When you use something to cope 10 Emotions as signals 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Rituals of connection 7 Affection and touch 7 Use your strengths 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Self-compassion 6 Cool the body first 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Tolerate distress 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Repair after rupture 3 Question the thought 3 Panic and the body 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Work with your brain 2 Rest and pacing 2 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Shame 1 Safety and grounding 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 6 In a change 2

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

It rarely stays a matter of attention. The difficulties shape what you come to believe about yourself, that colours how you are with the people closest to you, and their responses feed straight back into the original trouble.

Discouraging to read, and genuinely useful, because it means there are three places to work and they are not equally stuck. The wiring is the hardest…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:186

There is a difference between having ADHD and being ADHD. It sounds like word games until you notice which one you are living in.

Being it means the condition runs everything and explains everything, and there is a quiet relief in that which is hard to give up. Having it means…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 53:32

Work properly at the parts that can be managed, then be at peace with what is left over. The order matters more than it sounds.

Peace offered before any real effort is giving up with better vocabulary, and it never quite convinces the person saying it. Effort with no end point…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 22:78

Every list, timer and rule exists to buy you a life worth having. If the systems have quietly become the point, something has turned the wrong way round.

It is easy to end up managing your ADHD as a full time occupation and calling that recovery. A better test of a week is whether it held anything you…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 7:156

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