Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Shame Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

Who it is written for

A practitioner 1 Me 1 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 6 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · Shame

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Your nervous system 47 Get started 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 Your sense of time 37 What anger actually is 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 26 Screens and attention 26 Structure and routine 25 Growing empathy 25 When everything feels flat 25 The moment before you snap 25 Choosing your response 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 Feelings and focus 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Knowing your partner 20 The fear underneath anger 20 Treatment and medication 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Making it stick 15 Practising under provocation 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 What you are actually defending 13 Shame and stigma 13 Remembering to do it 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 When you use something to cope 10 Emotions as signals 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 7 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Self-compassion 6 Cool the body first 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Tolerate distress 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Repair after rupture 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Question the thought 3 Panic and the body 3 Rest and pacing 2 Work with your brain 2 Meaning after harm 2 Act on your values 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Shame 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Safety and grounding 1 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When · Any ordinary day

Coming and going 1 Under stress 1 Any ordinary day 1

You did not choose which things hurt you. Where you are tender was set long before you had any say in it, and the only live question is what you do with it now.

This is worth saying out loud between two people, because each usually thinks their own soft spot is embarrassing and the other's is obvious. Try…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:54

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