Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Equanimity and perspective Getting ready for something Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 3 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Me 4 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now · Getting ready for something

Coping, mostly 26 Struggling right now 7 Getting ready for something 4

Theme · Equanimity and perspective

Medication and how it works 35 Food, caffeine and fuel 20 The moment before you snap 18 Choosing your response 18 Cool the body first 16 Reading, numbers and learning differences 13 Exercise, food and other supports 12 Practising under provocation 12 Your nervous system 11 Your sense of time 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 What anger actually is 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Systems for daily life 9 Moving your body 8 Grounding and settling 8 Making it stick 8 What ADHD actually is 7 Remembering to do it 6 The fear underneath anger 5 Breathing 5 Equanimity and perspective 4 Feelings and focus 4 When you use something to cope 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Being seen and judged 3 Feeling from the inside 3 Structure and routine 3 The cost of avoiding 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Shame and stigma 2 Get started 2 Tolerate distress 2 Screens and attention 1 Touch and bodywork 1 Self-compassion 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Growing empathy 1 Rest and pacing 1

Approach

Core 3 Mindfulness 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 4 Under stress 1 Coming and going 1

Change the question you ask yourself. Not how badly do I want to stay calm, but what have I actually practised for the moment it starts.

Wanting is not a plan. Decide in advance the words you will use, the room you will step into, the person you will ring afterwards. Rehearsed things…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveCoreQur’an 25:62

Behind calm that looks superhuman there are usually decades of dull practice. The practice is the part worth copying, not the headline.

Setting your worst moment against somebody else's lifetime of training only produces despair. Ask instead what that person did on an ordinary…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveCoreQur’an 53:39

Stoics, Cynics, Buddhist teachers and your own grandmother were all working on the same problem: how to stay steady when life leans on you. You are allowed to use the version that is already yours.

You do not have to import somebody else's whole worldview to get a practice of steadiness. If sitting with a breath count feels foreign, a…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 3:191

This kind of change is slow, and saying so at the start is a kindness. A goal you can actually reach beats a promise that turns the first bad week into proof of failure.

If you are helping someone, name the timescale honestly and say out loud that lapses come with it. If it is your own work, write down what a…

LongerEquanimity and perspectiveCoreQur’an 2:286

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