Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Emotions as signals Struggling right now Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Me 3 My husband or wife 3

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 10 Struggling right now 3

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Both of us together 1

Theme · Emotions as signals

Your nervous system 29 Get started 20 Screens and attention 17 Medication and how it works 16 What ADHD actually is 13 Systems for daily life 12 What anger actually is 12 Your sense of time 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Shame and stigma 10 Treatment and medication 9 When everything feels flat 9 Obsessions and compulsions 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 Reading, numbers and learning differences 8 Touch and bodywork 7 Equanimity and perspective 7 The fear underneath anger 6 Shame 6 The moment before you snap 6 When you use something to cope 6 Being seen and judged 5 Tolerate distress 5 Moving your body 5 Grounding and settling 5 Feelings and focus 5 Structure and routine 5 What worry does 4 Cool the body first 3 Choosing your response 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Growing empathy 3 Feeling from the inside 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Question the thought 3 Treatment and medication 3 Emotions as signals 3 Practising under provocation 3 Breaking the worry loop 2 When you go numb 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Living with uncertainty 2 Facing it a step at a time 1 What you are actually defending 1 Use your strengths 1 Self-compassion 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Breathing 1 Making it stick 1 Remembering to do it 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 3 After a row 3 When apart 1

Ask what the feeling is trying to do for you. Anger clears an obstacle, fear gets you out, sadness calls for comfort, shame hides you from being seen.

Once a feeling has a job it stops being a defect you have to apologise for. That matters, because the ones we treat as shameful are precisely the…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 12:86

Often nothing is buried. The pieces are all there, they have simply never been put next to each other.

This hurts but I do not know why usually means the event, the feeling in the body and the meaning are being held separately. So join them up out…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 28:10

Emptying the feeling out at somebody does not shift it, and being told what to do instead skips over it. What changes things is feeling it with someone who stays.

You can tell the difference from the inside. Venting has a rehearsed quality, the same phrases coming round again with the heat kept up. Advice…

Twenty minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 21:83

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