Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices

Touch and bodywork Struggling right now Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 3 Five minutes 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 7 Me 7

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 30 Struggling right now 7 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 4 Involves someone else 2 Both of us together 1

Theme · Touch and bodywork

Your nervous system 29 Get started 20 Screens and attention 17 Medication and how it works 16 What ADHD actually is 13 Systems for daily life 12 What anger actually is 12 Your sense of time 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Shame and stigma 10 Treatment and medication 9 When everything feels flat 9 Obsessions and compulsions 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 Reading, numbers and learning differences 8 Touch and bodywork 7 Equanimity and perspective 7 The fear underneath anger 6 Shame 6 The moment before you snap 6 When you use something to cope 6 Being seen and judged 5 Tolerate distress 5 Moving your body 5 Grounding and settling 5 Feelings and focus 5 Structure and routine 5 What worry does 4 Cool the body first 3 Choosing your response 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Growing empathy 3 Feeling from the inside 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Question the thought 3 Treatment and medication 3 Emotions as signals 3 Practising under provocation 3 Breaking the worry loop 2 When you go numb 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Living with uncertainty 2 Facing it a step at a time 1 What you are actually defending 1 Use your strengths 1 Self-compassion 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Breathing 1 Making it stick 1 Remembering to do it 1

Approach

Body based 6 Medical and treatment 1

When · Any ordinary day

Under stress 15 Any ordinary day 7

With your eyes closed, bring to mind someone who is glad to see you, and let your face receive that look. A small smile usually arrives in the eyes on its own.

It can be someone you love, someone who loved you, a teacher from years ago, or an animal. The point is not the memory but the feeling of being…

A minuteTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 20:39

Sometimes eyes water during body work with no sad thought attached to it. Nothing has gone wrong, and there is nothing that needs explaining.

If it happens to you, let it happen. If it happens to someone you are working with, say something plain and warm: that this is common, that they do…

A minuteTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 93:10

Tap the fleshy outside edge of your hand and say something like: even though I feel this, I accept myself completely. Three times, in whatever words are actually true for you.

The shape of the sentence is the point. It names the problem and refuses to make your worth conditional on solving it, which is the exact opposite of…

A minuteTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 2:263

If several medications have failed, ask whether anyone else in the family had the same experience. A pattern of non response runs in some families.

It is a question that rarely gets asked and can save a year. If a parent or sibling went through the same list without success and then responded to…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:90

You choose what to work on and how big a piece of it. A sore shoulder, a low mood, the belief that you are too much: all of them are allowed, and so is starting small.

The useful phrase is whatever is standing in the way of you being all right just now. Some days that is a headache and some days it is the thing you…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 2:233

Deep change tends to follow self acceptance rather than the other way round. Waiting until you have fixed the thing before you are allowed to be kind to yourself usually keeps the thing exactly where it is.

This shows up most clearly with eating, drinking, and everything else people do to manage a feeling. Shame makes the feeling worse, and the behaviour…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 17:24

If pain is the thing you live with, start the session with the stroking sequence rather than the conversation. Arms, forehead, crown, cheeks, slowly.

It does two jobs in one go: gentle wide contact takes some edge off the pain, and it brings a person out of guarded alertness into being able to…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 12:93

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